We have all been around negative people before; depending on the amount of time we have to spend around a negative person determines if the negativity spreads to us.
You know the negative people they tend to be the ones who are never happy with anything. The ones who would find fault with having $1000.00 in 20s put in their hands, it was all in 20s, the wad was too big, and on and on.
After a while that negativity can wear off on us, we suddenly stop finding joy and positivity in the things around us. We become less positive and stop doing things that help us stay positive such as exercise, listening to music, or going out.
So how do we stay positive around negative people when we have to spend time with them?
Tactics you can use to stay positive around negative people, especially co-workers
We have put together a list of tactics that you can use to keep the negativity away and keep your positive attitude. You can use one or more of these tactics to help you stay positive.
10 Ways To Keep Positive Around Negative People
Take a few deep breaths and count to 10, if 10 doesn’t work the count to 20. This will allow you to center yourself and reduce the stress of the negative person engaging you in conversation. Reducing stress will help reduce the anxiety created by the negative person as well.
Exercising for 15 to 20 minutes three times a week will not only help you be physically healthy but mentally as well. It calms your inner anxieties, reduces stress, and fights off depression. This can help you a great deal when you have to deal with negative people, especially if you have to deal with them on a daily basis such a co-worker or even a boss.
3. Leave the conversation
If you can’t actually leave the area such as a workspace, then you will need to speak up and yes this isn’t always easy but sometimes it is the only action left that you can take. Simply say excuse me but your constant negativity drains me so unless you can curb your negative comments and complaints I would rather not talk to you.
4. Surround yourself with things that help you keep your positive attitude
Photos of family or friends, positive quotes, music that is uplifting to you. If you need to put the music on an mp3 player and use one earbud from your headset so that you can still hear phones that ring, alarms, etc. Listening to uplifting music can greatly reduce the negative feelings around you from a negative co-worker.
5. Keep your hands and mind busy
If you occupied with work you will have less time to take in the negative vibes from the surrounding negative people. Also if you are working and they start talking negativity to you, you can simply say I am sorry I just have to finish this on time I really can’t talk right now as I need to concentrate on what I am doing.
6. You might ask the negative person if they are alright
This could go two ways,
- They yell and tell you off,
- They realize that someone actually cares enough to ask and this will leave them somewhat speechless at first.
If they don’t yell you could continue with you seem to have a lot of negativity, so I was wondering if there was something wrong that you may need someone to listen. Most people will find this a bit scary, but if it comes to saving yourself from negativity it could well be worth it. You will then know if they just thrive on negativity or actually have a reason for their negativity.