“For one human being to love another is perhaps the most difficult task of all, the epitome, the ultimate test. It is that striving for which all other striving is merely a preparation.” – Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young poet
We have been fed a lot of myth about romantic love from Hollywood flicks and childhood fairytales, but if you have lived enough life, you would know that love is not just about making swoony declarations and going on romantic dinner dates.
In real life, love is about being authentic and vulnerable with your partner. It is about noticing the little things, like how your partner’s eyes light up when they talk about things they are passionate about, it is about knowing how they like their coffee, how they like to be touched when they are sad and when they are turned on.
It is about being each other’s best friend and cheerleader. It is about having each other’s back and growing in life together.
There are a lot of lists floating around about the little things that make women happy. But I think guys equally deserve to feel love and affection.
If you have got a good guy in your life, he deserves to feel loved and appreciated.
I have compiled a list of 7 seemingly minor things that mean the world to men. Here you go:
1) Give him heartfelt compliments
We have been conditioned to believe that it’s a men’s prerogative to compliment girls. That man they do not care as much about their looks and do not fend for compliments. But let me break the myth to you, guys care as much as girls and they want to be appreciated and noticed by the person they love.
So, the next time you like something about your guy, whether it’s the way he dresses up or his new hairstyle or the way he smiles or the way he treats you, do not forget to compliment him about that.
A genuine heartfelt compliment goes a long way in making the other person feel loved and appreciated.
2) Be grateful and appreciative of what he does for you
Whether your partner works outside the home or takes care of the household chores. He is trying his best to be the provider for you and the family.
Whether we recognize it or not, men are under tremendous pressure due to playing the role of being the bread earner. The society values them according to the kind of money they make. As crappy as it may sound but that’s the sad reality of the society we live in.
No matter how much he loves his work, there would be days when he would feel like yelling at his boss or just taking a break from all the mess but he does not do that because he takes the responsibility of being the provider very seriously.
It will go a long way if you just tell him that you appreciate everything that he does for you and the family. Tell him that you see and appreciate his commitment and hard work.
It’s not about the money –yours or his – but it’s about appreciating and encouraging each other in the journey together and working as a team.
3) Make things hot and dreamy in the bedroom
Intimacy is more than just being sexual. It is about being open, authentic and vulnerable with your partner. It is about letting your guard down and letting in playfulness.
It is about giving your partner space to be 100% themselves. It is about trusting your partner with all your heart and loving them unconditionally.
Guys do not only crave love making, they also want to feel loved and desired and they value intimacy as much as you.
Get as creative as you want to be to let him know that you love and desire him.