Not all love is sweet and innocent. What you think love can be an obsession and emotional abuse and you need to be cautious. Your partner might be the most caring and attentive of all, and yet if they are obsessed with you, they are dangerous for you.
One needs to be careful of the signs which tell apart obsession and love. Because being in a relationship with someone who is obsessed with you and only you are not desirable as you might think. It can and will turn into an abusive relationship, sooner or later.
Such people have their own psychological demons inside their heads. The love they have for you is a manifestation of their own struggles.
And if you look closely enough you’ll be able to notice these red flags of toxic behaviour easily. The very obvious example is when you start feeling that the relationship functions much more on emotions rather than on logic. Even if you feel that something is wrong you choose to ignore it.
You will think of a million reasons why they might have done something like that, and you’d always find something good enough to convince you.
Obsession is when the other person can’t seem to live without you.
It sounds very romantic that someone would love you so much that they want to be with you every second of the day. But it is neither practical, not healthy.
If someone wants to be with you constantly, they are neglecting their own life or perhaps don’t have one. And this is definitely not wholesome.
To have someone’s entire life around you can be a lot of pressure to take and is definitely not something that should be wished for. It is good when your friends know about your boyfriend and vice versa. It is no longer good if he doesn’t let you go out with them alone.
If he always wants to be around you and doesn’t let you have a personal space that is not cute at all. If he continuously calls or texts you over the duration of the day, he’s trying to keep a tab on you and not simply checking up on you.
If he is not comfortable with you having a good time without him then it is definitely a sign of trouble. Also if he has problems with all your male friends, no matter new or old he is definitely insecure about you.
If he makes you think like you need to choose between your family and friends and him, then he is not the right guy for you.
If he is not being able to handle you happy with someone else, that is his problem and not yours. You don’t have to feel guilty about spending time with your loved ones because it makes him uncomfortable, angry or jealous.
He being miserable on his own and not letting you live a life at all is on him and him alone. All this need on their part might seem flattering at first, but remember this is not a sign of love.
6 Signs of obsession and emotional abuse
1) They shower a deluge of attention on you
2) They also ask for univocal right on your time
3) They completely ignore those aspects of their life which have nothing to do with you.
4) They are jealous of anyone or anything who wants your attention.
5) When you are not with them they continuously barrage you with texts or calls.
6) They make it a point to show to others that you are with them. They don’t care if they are intruding in your personal space or making you feel uncomfortable.
There is no way to tell apart the beginning of obsessive love and that of any new love.
Both of you have eyes only for each other, you think of them all the time and so on and so forth. But an abusive love born out of obsession would soon turn into possessiveness.
Your independence will soon start to irk them and they will lash out. They will try to stop you from being at work, around other people, and around friends. And most of the time their excuses would be nothing more than playing the victim.
They’d make you feel guilty about choosing to spend any duration of time away from them.