Do you prioritize your needs? Or do you put it on hold for the happiness of your closed ones? Life is too short to delay things that can make your life better. We forget to value our own happiness and end up in misery. It’s time to choose yourself and start living!
How to choose yourself? Here are 30 things you should start doing for yourself.
1. Start taking responsibility for your life
Taking responsibility for your life means, being accountable for your own thoughts, deeds, feelings, and words. Accept your mistakes and decisions and work towards improvement. Instead of blaming and complaining, take accountability for your own life and welfare.
Ask yourself, “What’s my role? What can I learn from this mistake?”. Avoid taking things personally or depending on people for happiness. Remember, It’s not the job of your parents and friends to make you happy. By being accountable you can accept a cluster of challenges and figure out how to overcome the obstacles, according to a study published in the journal of Distributive Justice. Else you’ll end up being unhappy and sad.
2. Start surrounding yourself with the right people
These are the people who boost your intellectual growth and inspire you to become what you want. They are the ones with whom you spent quality time, who encourage and love you unconditionally. Spend time with people who can be your best friend and mentor. They will help you move on even in the toughest times. And empower you to achieve your personal and professional goals. Bid farewell to pessimistic nellies who only bring you down focusing on your imperfections.
3. Start nurturing your closed relationships
Robert Waldinger conducted the Harvard Study of Adult Development for over 80 years to find out things that make us happier and healthier. The message from the results is startling- “good relationships keep us happier and healthier”.
Money, fame, and the number of friends or relationships you had are not important.
According to Waldinger, it’s about how healthy and strong your relationship is with your closed ones. People who are well-connected to family members, friends, neighbors, and community are physically and mentally happy. Love people, whom you can count on during adversity. Nurture your relationships with them by doing something new like long walks or get-togethers.
Are you wondering how to choose yourself? Watch the story of James Altucher, the renowned author and serial entrepreneur.
4. Start living in the present
Ranting about losses and worrying about the future brings you stress and anxiety. Right now is a miracle. Living in the present is the key to becoming happier and healthier. Learn to experience life as it’s happening. It will keep you, connected to yourself and everything around you. Being present-minded enhances your ability to cope with fear, anxiety, and anger according to a study published in the Human Kinetics Journal.
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5. Start being yourself, genuinely and proudly
Stop being someone who is not the real you. Choose yourself! Create your best version. It’s you with whom you have to live lifelong. Realize that you’re unique in every way and be proud of yourself. You can turn your ideas, strengths and tiny sparks into flames of achievement. Instead of being hard on yourself. Practise self-compassion! According to a study published in the journal of self and identity, self-compassion boosts your happiness and reduces stress. Because self-compassion stops you from procrastinating things.
6. Start prioritizing your own happiness
Happiness doesn’t simply come to us. Being happy is a choice that you make and you have to keep making this choice every day. Thinking of your needs, values, and things that bring you joy will elevate you. If you don’t respect or value yourself, then you’re sabotaging yourself. Taking care of yourself doesn’t mean you stop caring for others. Prioritizing yourself is an unselfish art! If you are happy, you’ll be far more capable of making others happy.
7. Start valuing the lessons your mistakes teach you
“Experience is a hard teacher because she gives the test first, the lesson afterwards.” -Vernon Law.
It’s okay to make mistakes as long as you get up and fight. Mistakes are a getaway to polish yourself, learn, grow, try harder. Mistakes make you retrospect and introspect risks and opportunities. And find a way to reach your destination. The long roads of failure may end with a significant achievement. You never know. One of the ‘mistakes’ you fear might just be the link to your grand success yet.
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