Being true to yourself is simpler than you think as we are hardwired to be what others expect of us rather than who we want to be. When you don’t choose to be your most genuine self, regret ensues.
One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself. – Shannon L. Alder
How does it feel to live an illusion of yourself and later realize you could be better off being just yourself? Let’s be honest, the realization is never sweet.
Some people end up half of their lives living in the skin of someone they were supposed to be rather than someone they always were. And why not?
Ever since most of our childhood, we are taught to be the best version of ourselves – to talk the way others expect us to, to behave the way others want us to. All of these for the social approval that we need to maintain a safe and appreciable image in society.
But do we stop to think where our inner desires vaporize once we silence our screaming self with the hissing conventions of the society? We do not.
And, that is when we happily bury our real self under layers of pretense and farce.
The saddest part is that sometimes we don’t even realize why we are doing this. Our intuition points at something seeming off, at the dissonance between what we really believe and what we follow, but we shrug it off and keep going on the path carved by our previous generations.
We seldom get the opportunity to follow our internal need for curiosity. To make things even worse, we learn to compare our accomplishments and achievements to those of others, even regarding things we don’t really care about. This is how we learn to be happy in other people’s happiness and compromise our genuine desires.
If you also value authenticity and freedom over conformity and approval, perhaps this will be useful to you.
These are the 10 signs that you are killing conventions and being true to yourself:
1. You stand up for yourself.
Standing up for yourself is going to be difficult if you are habituated to trim yourself down to suit others. When people give control of their life in the hands of others, they leave themselves to high chances of being manipulated and negatively influenced by others.
Self-awareness entails that you know how to respect yourself and put a strong personal boundary for yourself.
If under any circumstances, people cross your boundaries, you know how to stand up for yourself without being rude or mean to others. At any cost, you are not willing to compromise your value system or opinions but also leave space for positive modifications.
2. You undauntedly follow your passion.
If you find yourself dragging to work every morning, wishing to quit, ask yourself, “Am I being authentic to myself about my dreams?”
Obstacles are inevitable. If you really desire something from the core of your heart, you will invest your time, willpower, dedication to never give up on it, unless and until you acquire it. It is understandable that not everyone has the comfort and security to pursue their dreams and materialize it into a success story. But if you are trying, you are halfway there.
People who are true to themselves, do not sacrifice their dreams and passion for anything in this world. Rather they challenge their comfort zone just to achieve what they are passionate about.
3. You take mistakes sportingly.
While most of your fellow men wail and cry over their ‘mistakes’, you believe it’s a ‘step closer to wisdom’.
If this is your thought process, you are being truly generous to yourself.
Everyone has to grow through mistakes. No life experience is ever wasted as it teaches you something or the other, however small it is. There are people who engage in self-sabotaging dialogues with themselves when they make a mistake.
Take the opportunity to learn something unique from every mistake you make. It will help you evolve as an individual.