Are you an anxious overthinker? It seems today there are a million things you can worry about. While technology continues to advance, in social media, it adds a bit of confusion, among relationships with people. There is a new form of unkindness, with every unfollow or not liking a picture. It’s passive-aggressive. Where there was once a time, people could argue face to face, you don’t need to anymore. But for the anxious overthinker, social media and a million outlets, just leave us wondering, confused and worried. If there is something to overthink we’ll analyze it to the core like it’s a research subject. But inside the mind of an anxious overthinker is a dark and scary place to be. It’s made-up of negative scenarios and feels like we are a prisoner inside our own minds, with no way of escaping. We just want to do things right and not hurt anyone or hurt ourselves along the way. But sometimes, the hardest thing about being an over-thinker, with anxiety, is just going with the flow of things, because we like understanding things, we like things being made simple. But it’s never that easy.
1. We read between the lines of every text.
Do we wonder how to respond? What is really being said? When to answer? What punctuation and emoji are to use? We don’t want to seem too excited. We don’t want to seem like a bitch. And while others, may think nothing of a text, that took us 15 minutes to write, we’re shaking in our boots wondering what the other person is thinking.
2. And reread everything to see if we missed something.
We reread conversations, more than once. We rethink everything, with different made-up scenarios. We worry because we care too much.
3. We automatically assume someone is mad at us.
If they don’t answer, there has got to be a reason. We replay everything of what we could have said, or done wrong and we want only to make it right.
4. We can pick up on body language and understand what people aren’t saying.
We watch everyone and everything. While we might be quite, we are quietly noticing everything, going on around us.
5. We follow our gut when it comes to everything.
At the end of the day, we can analyze things to the core. We can get advice, but the best advice, will always come from ourselves and it is that which we follow.
6. We create problems in your mind.
It’s almost like a puzzle, with a million pieces, that we complete, only to ruin and reconstruct again, “for fun.” But there is nothing fun about creating problems, that aren’t actually there. Is your overthinking negatively affecting your relationship? Read Ways Over-thinking Might Be Damaging Our Relationships
7. But can solve anyone else’s problem.
We tend to be the first one, people turn to for advice. If only we took our own. Our friends constantly remind us to not worry or “you are overthinking this.” But we do.
8. Dating can be the best worst thing that can happen to us.
Because we tend to ruin things before they can even begin. The worst part is that we are always anticipating that. Are you in a relationship with someone with anxiety? Read This Is How You Love Someone With Anxiety
9. Because we analyze every detail, word, and gesture.
Guys are rather simple and straightforward. There isn’t always a subtone to things, but we think there is.
My name is Kirsten Corley. Both writer by day, hopeless romantic by night live my life with a simple motto. 'What can I do for you' I believe our lives are only as good as the people who's lives you make better. I strive to help readers gain an understanding of intense emotions, like heartbreak and getting through it. I think together we have the ability to overcome the challenges life throws our way and even in those times you hit rock bottom, I see it as a wonderful platform to begin again.