When you love someone with anxiety you are inclined to assume everyone is going to leave. So much so, sometimes these people might be the ones to ruin a relationship. The truth is they battle something they can’t control and there is a sense of insecurity within themselves when it comes to relationships.
They know it’s difficult and they don’t want to burden you with their irrational thoughts and worries. So instead, they push you away before you get the chance to leave yourself.
1. Remember They’re Worth Fighting For.
It might be hard sometimes. There might be stupid fights of scenarios they’ve created in their own head. But more than anything, they’re worth fighting for. The toughest people usually are. And if you can fight with them through this, it’ll come back to you ten folds.
2. The Phrase, ‘It’s Okay,’ Can Never Be Used Enough.
It’s two words. Two words that stop every thought running through their head. And honestly, you can never say it enough.
3. Sometimes You Just Have To Listen.
They’re going to play out these situations in their minds. They’re going to jump from point A to point B and sometimes you’re not even going to know how they got there. The best thing you can do is let them go off on their tangent. Even if there’s no solution or fear they worry about in the future, the act of listening will help.
4. Don’t Tell Them, ‘You’re Overreacting.’
To you, it might seem irrational. But to them whatever they open up to you about, it’s something that actually keeps them up at night. So just take it as best you can.
5. They Probably Won’t Sleep Through The Night.
Whether it takes them a while to fall asleep or stay asleep, you’ll be woken up by them at 3 am as they lay there wide awake. Just hold them close and the comfort in your presence might be enough to get them back to sleep.
6. Remember It’s Not That They Don’t Trust You. They’re Scared.
You say it’s an ex and in their mind, they jump to cheating. You say it’s a friend and in their mind, it’s someone trying to break you two up. It’s not you and your relationship that isn’t trusted, it’s every worst-case scenario automatically playing out in their head and they hate themselves for it.
7. Answering Texts Timely Does Help More Than You Know.
You’ve probably noticed they answer embarrassingly fast and they know not everyone is like them but it helps when people understand it. It helps when you say ‘I can’t talk now this is why I’ll text you later.’ Silence kills anyone with anxiety. It creates problems in their minds that aren’t even there. It ends in apologies that aren’t even needed. And it adds a layer of stress to their life they wish they could control.
8. Don’t Be Mad If They Send A Double Text.
You might turn your phone on, to four texts. If you can remember it’s not that they’re trying to be annoying. They care. They care too much and they know it makes them look bad.
9. Sometimes They Just Won’t Be Up For Going Out.
They might cancel last minute or freeze in the middle of a night out and just not be able to do it. If they tell you they have to leave don’t feel a sense of guilt or obligation to go with them. Just know they tried and for whatever reason, they couldn’t handle it.