They’ll play a part beautifully in the beginning. They’ll look at you all starry-eyed and romantic and make you believe that they love you more than anything or anybody else.
But the truth is that they want something from you. It’s hard to see past their façade of charm and glamour but sooner or later they will slip up and reveal their true face.
Anyone who has ever had to go through the experience of being a narcissist’s prey can tell you how terrible it is. Time with them can drain the very life out of a person.
Keep reading to learn about all the traits you will see in a decent man and ensure that you check these off every time you meet someone so that you don’t become a victim.
There is no one undeserving of happiness and you wouldn’t wish this kind of relationship on your worst enemy. Remember that life is short and precious so be cautious and look out for yourself.
12 markers of a decent man that you’ll never see in a narcissist
1. When you have something to say, he’ll pay attention to every single word
Even if you’re worried about something he might consider trivial, he’ll take it seriously because it’s important to you. He won’t interrupt you or get distracted even if he doesn’t agree with your opinion.
It’s not easy to listen to another person especially if they’ve brought up a subject you’re not eager to talk about but if he does it, he’s a decent man.
2. You won’t become an outlet for his negative emotions
He could have had the worst day possible but he’s not going to come back and take it all out on you. Everybody gets stressed out now and then but he’ll acknowledge that he’s having some issues and he’ll feel genuinely bad if he’s acted out to you. If you truly love him, you’ll do the same for him.
3. He’ll never let go of his humility and indulge in boasting
Narcissists are incredibly vain and they’ll go on and on about everything they’ve achieved, even if it’s really not that big a deal.
Moreover, they’ll never let anyone else be appreciated around them because they don’t like losing the spotlight. A decent man won’t brag about all that he’s done but you can take pride in his work and appreciate him.
4. He’ll offer his assistance in all your endeavors
You might not be in perfect agreement but that doesn’t mean he’ll stop you if you truly wish to do something. He’ll only try to help you progress towards your goal. He appreciates your strength and will do whatever he can to bolster it so that you can achieve everything you want to.
5. When he’s made a mistake he’ll own up to it
When he slips up, he’ll acknowledge that it was his fault and he’ll apologize to whomever he’s hurt. Both of you do this for each other. A narcissist’s pride will not allow them to do this.
6. Even when times are tough, he’ll look at the bright side
Life is full of ups and downs but a good man knows how to look for the silver lining in every cloud. He’ll be there for you whenever you need someone to have your back. Of course, he’ll have his own dark days so ensure that you support him the way he supports you.
7. He’ll never try to turn your own feelings against you
A narcissist will take any opportunity to tear you down so it’s like hitting gold for them when you’re feeling terrible about yourself.
A good man will want you to love yourself the way he loves you so he’ll do whatever he can to make you feel better and to boost your self-esteem.