When it comes to finding a long-term relationship, one must be dedicated and have a positive love-life with their partner. Here are 12 telltale signs that your love is genuine.
True and lasting love in a relationship is about all the small things that you and your partner feel on a daily basis and still find appealing. In our topsy-turvy, stressed-out world, true love may be the only thing we can count on.
Looking for that special someone has become a priority for many. Google shows over 300 million results for the search “online dating sites.” There are more than 40 million American singles heading online to find love.
It may not be easy, but most people are now able to find someone to love. But not everyone knows how to keep love alive and growing through the years. I’ve been a marriage and family counselor for more than 40 years. I’ve also been happily married for 35 years.
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Here are some things my wife, Carlin, and I have felt on our journey together. 12 Signs of True Love
1. Romantic love
We all know the feeling. We meet, we connect, we fall in love. When we’re in it our world is turned upside down. We’d rather be with our beloved than eat, sleep, or work. We feel on top of the world when our love is returned and crash to the depths if it looks like our love is threatened.
2. The desire to merge
Lust is connected with romance. We want to merge our bodies, minds, and spirits. Orgasmic intensity isn’t just about pleasure. It’s about wanting to share our hearts, souls, atoms, and electrons. We want to lose ourselves and find the divine.
3. It’s us against the world
We no longer feel alone. We are now part of a pair. We feel the power of two and the joy of being us. We’re still in the world, but the world seems like the background. We two are the center and the world is there to support and embrace us.
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4. Longing to create
The primal creation, the reason we are each here, is that a man and a woman came together and an intrepid sperm was welcomed by a wondrous egg and we were launched into life. But in a world with too many people, we also create art, music, home, healing, and other gifts for humankind.
5. Disillusionment
The honeymoon time comes to an end. Disillusionment sets in. Our partner seems to change. They are not who we thought they were and they aren’t giving us what we longed to have. We wonder if we’ve made a mistake and begin turning away and looking for what is missing.
6. Incompatibility
Incompatibility is grounds for true love. When we become disillusioned with our partner, we often feel we’ve become incompatible. But when we recognize that disillusionment can mean letting go of illusions, we can also let go of believing that incompatibility is a bad thing. It actually allows us to learn where our wounds have been hiding.
7. Discovering our wounded selves
In looking away from our partner, we are forced to look within. We feel the pain of the trauma we all experienced growing up in families that didn’t adequately meet our needs. We recognize that we were hoping that our partner would make us whole. We were looking for true love in all the wrong places.
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8. True love is Embracing Illness
Everyone gets sick, but that’s not a bad thing. Sickness can be our greatest teacher, our greatest guide. I got depressed. My wife got breast cancer. We both developed heart arrhythmias. We learned the lessons of illness and healed.
