When you are dealing with a psychopath, chances are they will resort to the “word salad” in order to confuse you, and protect themselves from blame. And this is nothing short than hell for the other person involved.
Basically, psychopaths are never interested in solving the situation or making it better; they will convolute the conversation is such a way that you will end up feeling not just confused, but guilty too. All the while, they will be able to get off scot-free and vindicated.
If you have been through this before, or worse, you are still going through this, there are a few warning signs which can help you understand when you are being played.
Here Are 9 Warning Signs of the Manipulative Word Salad
1. Same conversations every time.
You might think that you have worked everything out, only to again discuss it two minutes later. You will feel as if no conversation even happened in the first place, and you did not say anything. They go on repeating the same thing over and over again, all the while entirely ignoring what you have to say. If something is going to be resolved, it will be on their terms.
With psychopaths, the same problems will crop up repeatedly—why are they staying in touch with their ex-partners? Why are they all of a sudden not paying any sort of attention to you? Why do they sound so eager to get off the phone?
When you confront them with such questions, they will pretend as if these are not problems at all, and you are just looking to fight. You get sucked back in, only to feel high-maintenance & crazy when they decide “I’m sick of always arguing about this.” It’s an absolute rollercoaster of emotions when it comes to conversing with a psychopath.
2. Digging up your past mistakes and using them against you.
If you point out something nasty they’re doing—like ignoring you or cheating on you—they’ll mention something totally unrelated from the past that you’ve done wrong. Did you use to drink too much? Well, then if they cheated on you, it’s justified. Did you not reach your first date on time? Well then, you can’t complain about them ignoring you for three days straight.
And God forbid you to bring up any of their past mistakes. Then, you are a bitter person who is always looking to cry and fight with them.
3. Patronizing you and judging you.
When you converse with them, you will notice that the conversation is very calm, and composed. It will seem like they are making fun of you, and quietly studying your reactions to understand just how far they can push you.
When you finally give in to your emotions and react emotionally, they will instantly pounce on you, and ask you to handle yourself, and calm yourself down. They will make you feel bad about being emotional, and also might make fun of you.
The whole point of word salad is to make you feel crazy which not just makes them feel better about themselves, but also makes them have the upper hand. Always remember that when it comes to psychopaths, conversations are not just conversations, they are competitions.
4. Projecting on you the things they do.
When involved in conflicts and arguments, psychopaths have zero shame. They will start projecting their problematic behaviors on you without any form of shame whatsoever. This kind of behavior is beyond projection, as most of the time, people tend to project unintentionally.
Psychopaths know they are smearing you with their own flaws, and they are simply trying to get a reaction from you so that they can make you feel bad about it later. After all, how can you keep calm in the face of such flagrant hypocrisy?
5. Deceiving you with multiple personalities.
Through the course of a word salad conversation, you’re likely to experience a variety of their personalities. It’s similar to the practice of bad cop, good cop, stalker cop, demeaning cop, scary cop, baby cop.
When they will see you pulling away from them because you are done with their problematic behavior, they will instantly give you a glimpse of their good side. They will manipulate you by convincing you that they will not repeat the same mistakes, all the while luring you into their trap. Once you come back fully convinced of their “honesty”, they will go back to their old and devious ways.