It’s easy to become disappointed after using dating apps dating apps for a long and not finding the one. Here are five reasons why you should never stop dating because the reality is that the more dates you go on, the more likely you are to find someone special.
I know the idea that you should never give up on dating might seem exhausting to you.
So many of my clients, when they are going through a break up, tell me that they will never date again, that it’s not worth the pain.
And I get it. The pain of a break up is intense. And dating is exhausting. And the whole thing just seems hopeless some days.
But I am here to tell you that you should NEVER give up on dating because, in the end, it will be worth it!
And here are 5 reasons why – to inspire you to keep up the good fight and get the love that you want.
1. Would you give up on something else you really wanted?
When you want something, do you usually go for it?
If you see a piece of jewelry you love, do you save up for it? If you see a job listing that you want, do you update your killer resume and go for it? When you wanted to get your driver’s license more than anything, did you keep on taking the test, even after failing more than once?
Of course, you did. When you see something that you want, you go for it, no matter what the obstacles!
So, why would you give up on dating if love is what you want more than anything? I mean, how else are you going to find the love you seek?
I have a client who has wanted to be in a relationship for a long time. We have worked hard to get her out there – she was on the apps, went to meet ups, bugged friends for introductions. But, unfortunately, while she met some great guys, nothing stuck.
So, about 3 years ago, she gave up dating. She said that it just wasn’t worth it and that she was just going to be alone. And, guess what? She is still alone.
My client is not unhappy. She has chosen not to date and accepts that she most likely won’t find love, as a result. But she lives life to its fullest and she is content. And you can do that too.
Or, if love is what you seek, you can keep on dating, holding onto hope that you will find your person.
2. Every date is a new opportunity.
6 years ago, I met a guy on Match. He had lovely blue eyes and we clicked right away but we realized pretty quickly that we would be better off as friends.
This man has become one of my best friends. I would stay with him when I travelled to Vermont from New York City, we would go see disaster movies together and we helped each other through more than one horrid relationship.
I never would have met this man if not for Match and I am forever grateful, not only because he is one of my best friends but because, 3 years later, he introduced me to the love of my life who I am now living happily ever after with.
The point of my story is this – every single date that you go on is an opportunity to meet someone new, and with every new encounter, you open up your world just a little bit.