As a woman in love, you can often struggle with understanding your value or self-worth. Here are a few lessons what every woman should know about love to save themselves from heartache and grief along the path of relationships.
There are a few lessons women must learn about love but ones many of us tend to ignore, at our own peril.
We fall in love and break up and fall in love and break up – over and over – and we never seem to learn the why and how of it all. As a result, we are doomed to repeat history and risk ending up alone!
Love is so complicated. We believe that someday our prince will come and sweep us off our feet and that we will live happily ever after. We think that the relationships we see on TV and in movies are real. We believe that if we just act like Cinderella or Rose Dawson we will find our Prince or our Jack!
Unfortunately, most relationships don’t evolve the way they do on screen. And yet we hold on, believing that, if we just keep doing the things we have always done, our soulmate will appear and we will live happily ever after.
Let me tell you 5 lessons women must learn about love before it’s too late so that you can find the love that you seek.
What Every Woman Should Know About Love: 5 Lessons
1. Sex does not equal love.
There isn’t a single woman I know who hasn’t, at some point in her life, had sex with a man because she wanted him to love her. And, almost without exception, in spite of what we see in movies – where people fall into bed right away and then fall madly in love – it just doesn’t work.
Men want sex. As much sex as they can possibly get. But for many men sex does not equal love. It might not even equal like. Sex is sex.
For women, sex is different. Sex brings about an emotional connection, THE emotional connection that women crave. As a result, women believe that if she has sex with a man not only will she be giving him what he wants but she will also establish an emotional connection with him and that he will love her.
Does it work that way? Usually no.
I have a client who recently told me that it was time to have sex with a guy because they had been spending a lot of time together and she felt that she owed him. So, she did. And what happened – he moved on!
The best reason to have sex with a guy is because you want to. Beyond that there are no guarantees.
This is a very important lesson that women must learn about love before it’s too late!
2. If he is not in touch, he isn’t interested.
How many times have we sat by our phones and waited, watching the screen for that text alert. Or turned on our phone after a movie, desperately hoping that there will be a message from the guy we like.
And how many times have we been disappointed?
Something that you must know about love is that a guy who isn’t communicating with you, isn’t interested. Period. You can tell yourself that he is busy, or that he is out of range or that he is sleeping but if he regularly goes dark on you, to reappear with excuses, then he isn’t interested.
Guys are hunters. It’s in their nature. And if they want to communicate with you, or be with you, they will move heaven and earth to do so. And if they don’t, they won’t.
Also, those guys who disappear and then reappear, they are most likely reappearing because they are bored or horny. Sitting in front of a game or in a taxi and flipping through their phone. Don’t let them fool you or suck you back in.
Are you constantly making excuses for why guys don’t stay in touch? Do you believe that they are ‘scared of their feelings for you’ or working too hard or sleeping after a hard day. Are you ignoring that feeling in your gut, theone that knows that none of those things are true?
If yes, learn this lesson women must learn and move on! Find someone who wants to be in touch with you!