Life is hard. Life is unfair sometimes. Life can be painful also. Every time you hit an obstacle or feel disappointed because something you wanted did not work out, it’s life’s way of making you stronger and wiser. You can also work towards turning your struggles into strength with a few practices, that are not only effective but can also change your perspective towards life and hardships.
I remember being fascinated by Buddhism in college. Reading about the belief that life is suffering began to change my perspective and approach to my own hurdles.
However, back then, the underlying wisdom from that Buddhist saying wasn’t quite there for me yet. It would take a few years and crippling lessons to realize that my suffering didn’t happen for no reason at all.
There are reasons why the Buddhist notion is true. With investigation and practice, we can find patterns and change struggles into strength as well as acquire a true appreciation for the process.
Recently I became the greatest detective of my own life; having explored the reasons for some of my greatest falls I found that it was all only ever meant to teach me, and as a result, relieved me from much of the existential pain I experienced.
Below is a list of my own conscious practices, which I’ve learned through introspective navigating: to ease struggles, to help me let go, continue to grow, and to find my own internal strength.
Here Are 10 Painless Ways To Turn Your Struggles Into Strength
1. Get in the habit of questioning everything you do.
Why are you friends with this person? How do you feel when you…? What do you like about…?
People, places, activities, and things all influence us, consciously and unconsciously. Ask yourself questions and pay attention to your answers. You’ll start learning a lot more about yourself and notice what you didn’t always see.
2. Become aware of what you consume.
Whether it’s social media, TV, books, magazines… Why are you listening? What are you paying attention to?
All of these choices influence who we are, how we feel, and what we do. Pay close attention and never stop asking why.
3. Get in the habit of learning to change your perspective at the drop of a hat.
Our sight isn’t always 20/20 when it comes to how we want our experiences to be and what we make them mean. Always put yourself in the other person’s shoes and ask how you might be able to see things differently.
The first time I asked myself that… To my own surprise, I actually got the change in perspective I was searching for. As a result, I can now approach people and things with an open mind, a more compassionate heart, and a greater capacity to listen without an automatic reaction.
4. Have a belief in something greater than yourself.
This could be anything, from religion to a philosophy you have about life. The point is to abstract a meaning that shows you your life is more than just about you. It helps us adhere to the idea that by bettering ourselves we can make a difference, even if it’s small.
When we feel we are of use to something greater than ourselves we can access a deeper understanding of happiness. Not only will it help to motivate you to continue on your path, but it will set up the foundation to believe your purpose has meaning for something greater than just you.
5. Find something to ground yourself in.
Meditation, yoga, gym habits, long walks, observing the sunset… When we can find ways to disconnect from devices and dive into the present, we can appreciate more by noticing what’s around us.
Connecting with our own true self/soul/energy not only enables us to connect with ourselves but also enables us to deepen the connection with those around us too.