Where was depression until the 2000s? Hidden, unacknowledged, mostly not talked about, perhaps in the hope that it’ll all go away by itself. There are some truths depressed people won’t reveal so easily.
Globally, more than 300 million people of all ages suffer from depression, an increase of more than 18% between 2005 and 2015. (1)
Depression is the leading cause of disability and is projected to become the second highest burden of disease (measured in disability-adjusted life years) by 2020, but only a few studies have examined changes over time in the occurrence of depression. (2)
The only catch is that if you’re someone who has had depression in the past, you know well that it frequently leads to self-destruction.
As someone who has been mildly depressed for large parts of her own life, it has been a journey to hear friends talk about their experiences around the condition and to process other ways to live my own life.
Depression is often insidious in nature, a slow killer.
Almost 1 million lives are lost yearly due to suicide, which translates to 3000 suicide deaths every day. For every person who completes a suicide, 20 or more may attempt to end his or her life (WHO, 2012). (3)
Even though all stories do not have the same fatal end but all of them are equally disturbing.
Depression is a common mental disorder with a very high prevalence rate, commonly characterized by:
- depressed mood
- loss of interest or pleasure
- decreased energy
- feelings of guilt or low self-worth
- disturbed sleep or appetite
- poor concentration.
Moreover, depression often comes with symptoms of anxiety. These problems can become chronic or recurrent and lead to substantial impairments in an individual’s ability to take care of his or her everyday responsibilities. (4)
This is 2019, and more than ever, mental health awareness has picked up in scope. Even then, to hear about depression from a depressed person is infrequent. Even if they have the support from friends and family, even if they are aware of their own state, the stigma around mental health is still persistent.
Depression doesn’t always show on the surface. But the struggle within is excruciating.
The following are a few thoughts that depressed people will abstain from revealing to others:
1. “I wish I could do something about my own depression”
It’s a well-known fact that people take life for granted, take certain circumstances for granted. They may well have the feeling that they have complete power over what is happening to them. This attitude is then projected on to a depressed person, telling them “You perhaps brought this about.” But hey, stop right there.
Depression is not a choice.
There is a great deal of discomfort attached to waking up in the morning, feeling all drained, demotivated and wondering if life really had any purpose or that the lingering emptiness won’t ever go.
When a person with depression see how difficult their condition is being for people around them, all they believe is, “I am the root cause of all the problems in my close people’s life.” and tell themselves, “I wish I could do something about my own depression.”
In contrast all they feel is helpless – about themselves and about their condition. They believe nobody, not even their own self can pull them out of the engulfing darkness.
2. “I feel shame that I am not and can’t feel like the rest”
Depression of any kind is a constant reminder that life has come to a standstill just for one reason, while the rest of the world continues to function normally.
Ever wondered what the underlying emotion might be, unprocessed and unacknowledged?
A person with depression often feel guilt across situations- guilt for not being able to take one’s own responsibilities, meet others’ expectations, feel motivated, perform daily activities like before.
Depression, no matter what the cause, can make people feel utterly inadequate and insufficient.