Deep thinking is an admirable and beautiful trait to have. To have the ability to go deep inside, and think in ways that rarely anybody else thinks, is something you should always be proud of. However, there is a thin line between deep thinking and repetitive, obsessive thinking, and the second one does not sound that good, does it? Sounds exhausting and annoying, right?
Ruminating does not always have to be a bad thing, but too much of it can be. Breaking the habit of rumination is hard, especially when you keep on giving in to it, everything something goes wrong, or you face some trouble and inconvenience. Ruminating transforms into a bad habit, the moment you let your emotions control you, instead of using them to solve your difficulties and problems.
Obsessive, repetitive thinking will never do you any good, but if you have the ability to understand your emotions and with the help of it, deal with what you are facing in life, that’s when ruminating is a good thing. Otherwise, it’s really not. However, the good news is, there are a few techniques you can practice, and with the help of which, will be able to control this.
What Are The Causes Of Ruminating, Or Repetitive Thinking?
Everybody ruminates at some point or the other, for various reasons. Maybe you have an important job interview coming, or your father is going to undergo major surgery. There can be many reasons behind repetitive thinking and the more you know the causes, the better you might be able to handle it.
Here are a few causes that might contribute to your ruminating:
- Emotional and psychological stressors, such as a breakup, or losing your job.
- The inherent need to be perfect all the time.
- Past or recent trauma.
- Phobia, especially if you have to face your fears in the coming days. For example, feeling apprehensive about a major interview, because you suffer from social anxiety.
- Having feelings of low self-worth and low self-esteem.
- Impending events that are a source of stress, such as exams.
- Waiting for the results of something extremely important, that can have a direct impact on your life, like waiting for your medical test results.
8 Tricks That Can Help You Control Your Ruminating
1. Focus on accepting what is.
Sometimes you need to accept certain things and stop fighting to change them, no matter how painful they might be; acceptance can give you the peace of mind that resisting can never. However, accepting painful things does not mean accepting abuse, insults, and anything morally wrong, it’s more about accepting things like death. Losing a loved one is always tough, but stopping yourself from feeling that grief will hurt you more.
Ruminating about this over and over again will break your heart, over and over again. It’s hard accepting that someone you love is not there anymore, but trying to make your peace with it, and accepting it will not only make you stronger, but it will also make you happier and more peaceful with time. With the help of acceptance, you can control your rumination to a large extent, and work towards achieving mental peace.
2. Realize the kind of thoughts running through your mind.
Sometimes ruminating happens, and you don’t even realize it. This might sound absurd, but it’s true, rumination can happen without you even knowing about it. Normally you might find yourself ruminating when you are alone, especially when you don’t have anything to do. When you are driving or cooking, you might find yourself constantly thinking about all the things you need to do. Going over this mental to-do list again and again, just makes your ruminating worse.
One of the best ways to control something is by trying to understand what is happening. The moment you notice that you are ruminating, and it’s making you feel more stressed out, you can pause it or put a stop to it. Acknowledge what is going on, what you are thinking, and consciously make a decision of pausing it, and give yourself some breathing space. Consistently practicing this can help you kick this habit.