6. “She is just a housewife.”
Women who make fun of other women, and judge them for being homemakers, unknowingly perpetuate toxic femininity to no end. If a woman chooses to be a housewife, it is her choice, and she does not deserve to be judged or ridiculed for that. Just like going out and earning money is an important thing, so is taking care of your home.
And everyone knows this by now, that being a housewife is sometimes way harder than being a working professional.
7. “I know what is good for you.”
Since time immemorial, women have been stamped with the “nurturer” tag. Now, don’t get me wrong; there is absolutely nothing wrong with caring about the people you love and making sure that they are always happy and healthy.
But, when some women use this as a means for dominating and controlling their partners or children into doing their bidding, that’s when it goes downhill. Using one’s gender to manipulate people is morally never the right thing to do.
8. “She is too girly.”
Centuries of social conditioning have convinced us that men are better than women. Men are more capable than women. Men are stronger than women. And no matter what you do, women will always be the weaker sex. It’s a compliment when you are compared with a man, but it’s the biggest insult when you are compared to a woman.
Naturally, when some women fully embrace their femininity, they are tagged as “too girly”, and “too feminine” by their counterparts. A woman is supposed to be feminine, just like a man is supposed to be masculine. So, if it’s a good thing for a man to be manly, why is it a negative thing for a girl to be girly?
9. “You need to be stronger when you have your period.”
Menstruation or periods are tough to deal with as it is, and not to forget exceptionally painful. Competing with each other regarding who has more pain tolerance is wrong on so many levels. There are many women out there who do not have horrible and painful cramps, and even if they do they deal with them better. On the other hand, there are many women who have such bad cramps, that they find it extremely difficult to even get out of their beds.
Instead of making the women who fall in the latter category feel bad about their struggles, why not help them deal with it better? Menstruation is one of the biggest things that bring women together, so why not use it as a positive bonding experience?
10. “Women are more mature, and responsible than men.”
Women are strong enough to take care of themselves, just like men are. So, when you tell a woman that because women mature faster than men, you are indirectly implying that women should always be the “bigger person”.
This leads to the toxic mentality that women need to rehabilitate, and reform men and their toxicities. Both men and women should have the ability to differentiate between right and wrong and work towards helping each other be better. To put the onus of it on one specific gender, is unfair, to say the least.
Toxic femininity is as harmful as toxic masculinity, and if not checked in time, it can have horrible repercussions. No gender should be forced into a specific box and expected to strictly follow the rules that come with it. Having an open mind, and working together will only help in taking society in the right direction.