Today I’m done holding on to your memory. I’m throwing away all the cards and love letters I’ve held on to for far too long. I’m ripping up every picture I have stashed away in my drawer to remember us. I’m giving your old shirts away to someone who doesn’t know their significance.
I’m letting you go, completely.
I don’t want to scroll through my camera roll and see old pictures of you. I don’t want to be searching through my contacts and see your name come up anymore. I don’t want to find old screen shots of our conversations. I don’t want to hear old songs and think of you.
It’s not that I want to forget about you, because I don’t, not completely anyway. You became a huge part of my life, but that’s the thing. You were just a part of it.
It’s about moving on, I have to move on. It’s about me not thinking about you every time something good happens and wanting to run to you with the news. It’s about being able to handle all the bad on my own. It’s about me picking up my life and moving on without wondering what you’re doing with yours.
It’s letting go of the idea I thought I would spend the rest of my life with you. It’s leaving behind the traces of you that you imprinted everywhere. It’s being okay with being on my own.
It’s about running into you and not having my heart skip a beat, it’s about not getting tongue tied and nervous about what you’re thinking about me. It’s actually not caring anymore about what you do think of me. I don’t want to get butterflies when you say my name. I don’t want to be tossing and turning over the thoughts of missing you.
I’m letting you go because I want to be happy. I want to be able to be happy for you, too. I want to be okay with the fact someone else gets to spend forever with you. I want to be okay with the fact I won’t be waking up next to you again, and that someone else will be pouring your coffee with two creams and two sugars. I want to be okay with the fact someone else is loving your tattoos and your rough hands.
I want to be healed and I want to be whole so that I can find happiness with someone new.
So, today I’m finally letting you go because you and I are no longer anything and holding on to you is only hurting me. Today I decided I need to put myself first and leave you behind for good.
I survived adultery My husband and I will be married 6years in August. We have 3 beautiful children. Our youngest was just 1yr old when my husband began his affair. I found out only an hour before my Grandma’s funeral, through a text, from the other woman’s husband. I didn’t know him at all. Never met him. But it was a screenshot of a sudden conversation he found on his wife’s phone between her and my husband. My life changed forever that day. I felt the loss of 2 people I loved deeply. I reached a level of pain I didn’t even know was possible. The affair went on for 2 years. It was a very sexual affair and I learned so many intimate details, the images in my head were unbearable. The other woman had been married for 17 years with 2 kids. Her husband made her leave and she found a house to rent that her family owned. So my husband moved in with her. Neither of them had even filed for divorce, they simply left their families and thought they could start one of their own. This went on for several months. It was hell. The damage done to our marriage, to our family, and especially to our children was devastating. So I did the only thing I knew to do…PRAY!!! Fortunately for me I came across PROPHET OGUNKAYE who told me God is a miracle worker and NOTHING is impossible with Him. He restores marriages. He can do anything! My marriage was so broken no human being could put it back together, but God used the Prophet….AND HE DID!! Through the Prophet, God brought us back together. I wish I could put into words the joy I feel in my heart! Prophet worked all the bad into something amazing! So I don’t say this lightly. I KNOW it’s not easy. I’ve been there. I’ve been to the darkest, most hopeless place one could be in a marriage. But I never gave up and also sought for help. Our kids are doing better than ever! I have forgiven my husband and he’s now more dedicated than ever. I’m glad to have my husband and my home back. So many people are going through different problems, Never give up hope! And seek help. Take the time to consult PROPHET OGUNKAYE on [email protected]. Focus on putting yourself back together and being the best wife/husband you can be. Be patient, be prayerful and always seek help.
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It’s painful from the beginning but later on you’ll forgot how you felt before.
I NEVER want to let go of my son. I will keep his pictures, the cards, some of his clothes. I will never let go until I meet with him in Heaven.
The article didn’t specify that letting go was about getting over a guy who dumped you. I thought she was trying to say let go of anyone no longer in your life. And that’s where I’m not sure her idea works. There are people who we lose who deserve to be honored, their memories preserved. In many cultures families have their beloved members buried on family land. Some have a special part of their homes dedicated to ancestors. We honor history by creating museums and archives and statues. We honor artists by displaying their works. We honor the relevance of the past and how it shapes the future in documentaries.
Break up, YES.
Death, NO.
Someday – #jameslambrightmckendree