“I know you think you’re scary and damaged. It makes you think you don’t deserve good things, but you do. And Derek, he’s bad for you. But me, I’m a good thing. And if this is a race, if there is a ring, my hat is in.”
– Grey’s Anatomy
This goes out to each and every woman who believes that her brokenness makes her unworthy of love. It goes out to remind them that they deserve every bit of love and happiness that comes their way, just like everybody else.
I know how hard it is to keep oneself from being overwhelmed by self-doubt. When a person has been hurt multiple times, they begin to believe that they did something to deserve that pain.
Subsequently, they start thinking that they are unworthy of anything remotely positive. But this only keeps you stuck in a cycle of self-destruction, leading to more unhappiness that you’ll know how to handle. It’s time to make a change.
When you are having a difficult time trying not to hate yourself for everything that has gone wrong in the past, I need you to think about this…
1. You are worthy of so much more than you know
When you become extremely insecure about yourself, you’ll start thinking that settling for whatever you can get is for the best because there is no way you’ll get something better. You might have messed up before and caused pain to others without really understanding the consequences of your acts. Those thoughts might be haunting you day and night.
It is time to stop taunting yourself about your failures. There is no point worrying about all the pain you might have caused because the past is the past. You cannot go back in time and change it. It’s important to remember that you have changed. You’ve become better than you were and you need to remember that you can find redemption by letting go of your past self. Free yourself from that identity and create a new one that you can love.
2. Love is always just around the corner, waiting
The thing is, you probably don’t need me to tell you all the things I’ve said so far and the things I’m going to say. Somewhere inside, you are well aware that you are worthy of so much more than you’re settling for. You are just too scared to take that chance because you don’t think you’ll be able to handle it if you can’t sustain the good things that you have.
You’ve buried this deep down and I hope that reading this helps you dig those thoughts back up. Sometimes you need to risk everything to be happier in life. You are destined for love just like everyone else but if you want it, you need to reach out and take it. Only you can conquer the fear that is holding you back from happiness.
3. I see your future in the marks you bear
Like I said earlier, you can’t let your past self-control the way you define your present. Wrongs might have been committed but there is no point letting them come back to haunt you over and over again. When you look into the mirror and you find it hard to accept that that person in its reflection is really you that means you have changed and become the person you were meant to become for all these years.
I know you spend time regretting all the things you have done and all the pain you have caused. But just takes these memories as lessons and learn them well so that you never make the same mistakes again and can keep others from doing so as well.
4. I can also see where you are coming from
Remember to be grateful to have had the experiences that you did have. It might have been a hard and difficult time but the past taught you all the lessons you needed to know to become this better version of yourself. You have become much more than the person you were then and this change also serves to help you accept the love you will soon find.