When your spouse is feeling depressed, be positive. Tell them that you love them and that you see them and that you accept where they are right now. Tell them that you will be there for them, no matter what.
If you are feeling down on yourself, perhaps because your partner is depressed, be honest with them and take some time for yourself. If you can’t be positive, you aren’t good for your spouse.
5) Seek help but don’t push.
When your spouse is feeling depressed, it is important to know that help is out there. Oftentimes, when those we love are struggling, it’s easy to get mired in the now – in the tears, the anger, and the chaos that can result when your spouse is feeling depressed.
Fortunately, there are lots of resources out there for both people living with depression, and for those who love them. Seeing a therapist or a life coach, getting involved with a support group, talking to your primary care doctor, or getting involved with NAMI are all great resources for dealing with depression. Make yourself familiar with them and use them as you see fit.
It is important to know that you can’t force your spouse to get help. Until they are willing to accept that they are depressed and be willing to reach out to a doctor or therapist, any attempts by you to get them help will be useless. What you can do is share the resources that you find with your partner so that they know they are out there.
Sometimes, when people are depressed, they get so hopeless that it’s hard to believe that anything could possibly help. So, make the info available for when they are ready.
When your spouse is feeling depressed it can sometimes feel like the world is ending.
You love your partner but the chaos caused by the depression can be hard to deal with. Fortunately, there are things that you can do to help mitigate the damage and perhaps make a change going forward.
Make sure you acknowledge your partner’s mood but don’t try to fix it, give them space but not too much, make a plan for how to manage, be positive but not cloying and know that there is help out there.
Depression gets worse the more it goes untreated so it’s important that you pay attention to your spouse’s depression and if you see it getting deeper, consider reaching out to your family doctor for help. They can help you take the first steps towards helping your spouse get better.