Alice feels absolutely wonderful as the taxi takes her to the city of dreams- New York. A huge step – moving to New York and being single after years of being in a relationship. We all want this big experience. We think we really have to have this big single experience. Do things the way we want without listening to some guy babbling on about how you could do it differently.
She is single and then she meets Robin. Robin goes on to become her best friend in the whole world. But then they have a fall out because Robin points out the things that Alice doesn’t want to hear. Oops! Spoiler alert!
Whether you are in a relationship or single, this movie is a must-watch. There’s so much to learn from this movie whether it’s being confident with the person you are or simply what being single means.
Being single doesn’t mean that you have to hate men just because some jerk broke your heart. The experience of being single is worthy because it teaches you self-love and believing in who you are. It’s appreciating how far you’ve come even when you don’t think you made progress.
A movie can teach us so many lessons. So here’s all the things I learned from the movie “How to be Single”:
1. Don’t lose yourself in the relationship
Alice said to Josh “I’m so obsessed with the idea of being in love that I just, it’s like, I completely lose myself. Like, I forget what I want and I just disappear. I’m like the horse in ‘The Neverending Story’.”
Remember when Robin pointed out that Alice gets sucked into the guys’ world and forgets her individuality every time she is in a relationship. One of the most important things I learned from the movie “how to be single” was to not lose myself in a relationship. It is so important to have a life separate from your partner where you do things that you love. You don’t have to do everything with him. You don’t have to adjust your schedule according to his. Do your thing girl..because if you don’t know how to live your life, no one else will. You need to stand your ground and stick to your plans. Everything else will fall into place.
2. Heartbreak is valuable
Alice got her heart broken so many times in the movie. On the quest of figuring out her life, she learned how heartbreak is valuable. It may not feel like that initially but with time, you will understand how important heartbreak is. The phase of pulling yourself together after heartbreak is such an essential aspect of life. Whether you agree or not, you will learn something or the other from every heartbreak you encounter.
3. Practicing self-love is hard but worth it
It is hard. Learning to do things all by yourself when you had a partner do all of that for you is HARD. Remember when Alice started figuring out her single life, she didn’t even know how to set up her own wifi or switch off the Spanish subtitles on her TV. She missed Josh because he used to do it for her. Self-love means learning to be confident with what you do. It doesn’t necessarily have to be like it was portrayed in the movie. You don’t have to go out and hook up with some stranger at the bar. If that’s not your style, that is fine. But if it is, that is fine too.