Teach Your Kids Warning Signs Of Emotionally Abusive Relationships

Emotional abuse can be as destructive and damaging as physical abuse, and can severely impact your mental health. An emotional abuser’s tendencies are to undermine another person’s feelings of self-worth and independence. It’s used as a way to maintain power and control over someone. It is necessary to teach kids to understand emotionally abusive relationships from a young age so that they may know how to maneuver their way into adulthood better.

As parents or teachers, it is our responsibility to see that our kids are not pairing up with emotionally abusive partners. Although they are free to make the decision of who they choose as friends for themselves, it would be wise to educate them in understanding how to deal with emotional abuse. This can help them build stronger and more meaningful relationships. In order for our kids to understand emotional abusive relationships, they need to know how to identify one.

 

Related: Are you questioning if your relationship is an emotionally abusive one? Here are 10 Things That Happen Only in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship

 

Emotional abuse can involve any of the following:

  • Verbal abuse: yelling at you, insulting you or swearing at you.
  • Rejection: Constantly rejecting your thoughts, ideas, and opinions.
  • Gaslighting: making you doubt your own feelings and thoughts, and even your sanity, by manipulating the truth.
  • Put-downs: calling you names or telling you that you’re stupid, publicly embarrassing you, blaming you for everything. Public humiliation is also a form of social abuse.
  • Causing fear: making you feel afraid, intimidated or threatened.
  • Isolation: limiting your freedom of movement, stopping you from contacting other people (such as friends or family). It may also include stopping you from doing the things you normally do – social activities, sports, school or work. Isolating someone overlaps with social abuse.
  • Financial abuse: controlling or withholding your money, preventing you from working or studying, stealing from you. Financial abuse is another form of domestic violence.
  • Bullying and intimidation: purposely and repeatedly saying or doing things that are intended to hurt you.

 

Every parent wants their kids to make wise choices when it comes to relationships, but the unfortunate reality is that even healthy, smart kids can unwittingly form friendships or romantic interests with abusive people. This should not be held against them, rather we must let them understand to decide more wisely and let them know that our actions, words and behaviors affect our relationships.

 

Physical abuse is pretty straightforward; emotional abuse can be harder to find out. Your kid must know how to avoid and deal with those with emotionally abusive behaviors as soon as they know how to identify them. The sooner we teach kids to recognize the early warning signs that a potential friend or romantic partner might be an unhealthy choice, the better.

 

Here are some questions kids can ask themselves to identify warning signs of emotionally abusive relationships :

1. Does the person seem unreasonably jealous? 

Jealousy is indeed a wasted emotion and has nothing but negative outcomes. Kids are just learning how to navigate social relationships in general, so some jealousy among friends is normal. But as kids get older, that kind of immature jealous reaction to friends hanging out with other people should diminish. Kids — and especially teens who are approaching the dating stage — should know that jealousy is not a healthy or flattering quality in a friend or potential love interest.

 

2. Does the person try to isolate you from others? 

It’s normal and healthy to have relationships with many people. It’s a red flag if a friend or potential partner is trying to cut you off from others and keep you all to themselves, it’s time to step back and reevaluate your relationship if you find yourself losing friends or feeling guilty for spending time with other people. Your partner must not feel entitled to your time and presence so much so that they use it to satisfy their selfish desires.

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