Stop Screaming At Your Child

Stop Screaming At Your Child

Screaming can make your child scared and it does not discourage the unwanted behaviors of your child.

As parents, we all have our moments of crisis. We find ourselves preparing dinner, helping the elder with his homework and at the same time managing the crying baby because he wants to read a story “right now”.

Sometimes, let’s be honest, it’s really hard to keep calm!

Here is in this article the best advice that I have been able to receive and put into practice so as not to break new ground in my career as a beginner mother.

1. Breathe and speak in a low voice

The first thing to do to break the pressure of the pressure cooker ready to explode is to breathe!

Take 3 deep breaths by inhaling through the nose and exhaling through the mouth.

This will already allow you to calm down a bit and also show your children that you are coping with the pressure you are feeling.

Then if my child is agitated, angry, and screaming, I start talking in a low voice to try to understand what is happening. If I cry too, I am just making things worse. As I speak low enough (not too much either) my child is obliged to calm down to be able to hear what I say.

I saw a mistress (in my children’s Steiner school) do this in a class of 20 children and it is magical.

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 2. Sit on the floor

When my child annoys me the most. When I cannot take it anymore, push my limits and feel that I am going to scream, I’m applying a piece of advice given to me by the director of my children’s kindergarten.

She said to me “When you have the most desire to flee your child it means that you have to take it in your arms”. So I drop everything, I sit on the floor (at his level) and I ask him if he wants a hug.

My experience is that after 5 minutes, everything comes back in order. My child’s emotional reservoir is full and he stops looking for my attention. I can resume what I was doing.

 3. Singing

When I feel that the pressure is rising and we are approaching the drop that will overflow the vase, I have several times started singing!

In general, children are surprised and it allows me to ventilate without shouting on them (when I shout I still regret it)

4. Make the mirror

When my child stamps his feet because he wants a candy “right now” and that he repeats, repeats, repeats his desire hoping that I give in, I sometimes want to shout “Stop, shut up, you break my ears!”.

But I know it will not work (unless I threaten it with violence but that’s not the way I want to raise my children). I sometimes choose to play the mirror and I reflect his attitude to show him that I understand and that I connect with his frustration.

I stamp my foot and say, “You want a sweet right now”, “You really want a candy and it gets on your nerves because mom tells you no”, “You do not have anything to do but it will be soon dinner you want a candy right now “,” Candy is too good and you want one “.

I notice that just feeling a lot satisfies much of his urge and he is closer to letting go. Sometimes we even go to eat imaginary sweets. We invent the best sweets of the earth!

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