What are the dangers of feeling sorry for a person who suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Anti-Social Personality Disorder, or person who suffers from a comorbid condition that combines the two — known in pop culture psychology circles as a “Narcopath”? The more kindness and compassion a targeted victim elects to show them, the more likely Narcopaths are to feed off them and subsequently abuse almost inevitably tends to escalate.
Wondering how to stop feeling sorry for a Narcissist, Sociopath, Psychopath, or Narcopath? The answer is simple but not completely obvious. One absolutely has to engage the full use of their own logical BRAIN… and perspectively is necessary in order to provoke internal Narcissistic Abuse recovery inspired change.
On May 23, 2016, one of the more insightful and kind-hearted readers over on Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Flying Monkeys — Oh My! (TM) shared the following sentiment with page mods, eloquently stating what breaks the hearts of empathetic people most. They shared what nearly every domestic abuse victim or person who has been systematically targeted for social extinction has collective felt or expressed at one time or another when going through Narcissistic Abuse patterns and recovery stages.
The reader shared the following complex emotional thought while making a candid healing admission. As a kind-hearted individual who feels powerless to invite their abuser into an elevated state of loving civic communion, they shared the following lament as a confession:
“I actually begin to feel sorry for them. We all have been given one life in this world. We only live once. At the end of our life ,when we know we gonna leave this world,we will look back at our life we have lived, all the joy, love, happiness, sadness, etcetera we grow, we learn to become a better person, we give what we can back to society, we achieve little things in life to build up our confidence… [Are] we going to someday say we lived a fulfilled life but what about them? Sad to say, they’ve wasted their precious life living in anger, hatred, resentment, abusing, and destroying others… It’s really sad that these are the things they had live for and to bring it to their grave… No living person will speak goodness of them [after they die]. and in all reality that’s pretty sad.”
— NSFM reader quote
As Narcissistic Abuse recovery advocates, arguably the hardest part of dealing with Cluster B people has to do with our own tunnel vision when and if it comes to matters of the heart. Before doing extensive studying, most of our staff went through literally decades of wistful behavior striving to help narcissistic people see the psychological and emotional error of their ways (so to speak).
Causing other human beings a proverbial shit-ton of internal angst, physical pain, spiritual anguish, and emotional grief is the hallmark trait of proverbial calling card of a Cluster B person. Whether they are a toxic parent, and unruly child with conduct disorder, a teen with Oppositional Defiant Disorder, or a full-grown adult with excessive traits of narcissistic couples with a healthy dash of sociopathy or psychopathy, their song remains the same.