How To Stop Absorbing Other People's Pain and Start Healing It

We’ve all had instances wherein we shied away from people or places that made us feel scared or stressed for no reason we could explain. This is because we all possess a certain amount of empathy.

We are always being guided by our own intuition and the spiritual energy of the universe, hence we are giving and receiving a certain set of vibrations at all times. Thus, all of us are empaths to an extent. But this is not always a good thing.

Being an empath allows you to sense when something is wrong with an individual or a situation. This becomes worse when a crowd of people are simultaneously consumed by dark thoughts. But we can protect ourselves from these toxic vibrations and if not, at least ensure that the effect they have on us is minimal.

For some of us it is easier. We have invested a lot of time and energy in putting up walls that prevent us from experiencing the feelings of others as our own. But others who are born with greater empathic skills are not so lucky and they often find themselves caught in a flood of emotions that are not theirs to begin with.

The latter category is blessed because they can use their skills to quickly uncover any kind of deception and often they are so adept that they can heal their own emotional scares easily in comparison to the scars of others who are not linked to them.

But it can also feel like punishment because of the flow of emotions around them is often too heavy for them to bear. They have difficulty being part of a crowd or meeting negative individuals. Sometimes they cannot distinguish between their emotions and that of others.

Maddy Malhotra rightly wrote that what we feel is up to us:

“Depression, anger, and sadness are states of mind, and so are happiness, peace, and contentment. You can choose to be in any of these states because it’s your mind.”

The problem for people who are skilled empaths is that they become insecure and try to please everyone because they’ve always had to absorb everyone else’s hurt and sorrow. They try to keep people around them happy so that they can also be happy

But this doesn’t always work as there is always at least one person who, despite their best efforts, is quite stubborn and wants to continue with their suffering. In an effort to please them, the empath will take on their negativity because the negative person is more confident in their negativity than the empath is in their optimism. Their confidence in their outlook, no matter how flawed it may be, will win over anyone who is not as secure in their view.

This is why the empath will have to actively make and assert their choice to not imitate the negative vibes emitted by others no matter how much pressure they are under. They must concentrate and take charge of their own energy in order to be able to find the confidence required to prevent externalities from overwhelming them.