Dating After Heartbreak
Going through a breakup and getting your heartbroken is undoubtedly one of the worst experiences in life. Dealing with a range of mixed emotions can make it challenging and confusing for anyone to move on and start dating again.
Your love life feels like it’s going nowhere.
If you want to know how to find love again after a bad breakup or divorce, you need to know the best dating advice that will give you the confidence to go on.
Do you feel like your love life is going nowhere? Are you always asking yourself, “Will I ever find love?” Honestly, we’ve all been there!
I was on the Today show a while back on a segment about what to do when life doesn’t work out the way you want it to, especially if your love life tanked. It was great fun. Hoda and Kathie Lee were fantastic, as usual.
But, there were a few things about finding love and dating tips that I wasn’t able to share with the audience.
Life almost always takes a left turn — it never seems to go the way we expect.
The One turns out to be a Dud, the chemistry dies off in your relationship or marriage, you break up or get divorced, and your love life has tanked. How do you cope?
Studies show that certain people are more resilient — they adapt quickly and easily to change. When they hit unexpected, unwanted left turns in their lives, they use mentors, positive emotions and self-talk to help them cope. These fortunate people can turn a bushel of lemons into a whole lemonade stand.
So, aside from being envious, what can we learn from them about looking for love after getting your heart broken? How do we turn life’s disappointments into unexpected blessings and opportunities?
Here are 5 pieces of dating advice to help you find love again after heartbreak.
1. Look for the humor
Research on people who watch funny videos shows that they had reduced stress hormones, a boost to the immune system and a reduction in feeling pain.
Laughter lifts you right out of that downward spiral of negative thoughts and feelings that come with loss.
So, look for the funny angle. Call your funniest friend. Go to an improv club. You get the idea.
2. Find a mentor
This is what totally changed my life. As a young adult, I never wanted or expected to marry anyone because I had only seen battles and unhappiness in my parent’s marriage. Also, I was caught in deadly dating patterns, being a hermit or taking crumbs, and wanting the guys who didn’t want me.
But then I got a love mentor who taught me that love was possible and how to create it.
Using the principles they taught me, I took a left turn — here I am 180 degrees opposite from what I imagined — in a loving marriage to a guy who is my best friend for over 35 years! And I have helped tens of thousands of singles to find love too!