You’re ready to love again… at least you think you are. You had a bad breakup and you took the time to heal, or maybe you’ve never really fallen in love before and you want to feel those feelings. It can be difficult to know if what you’re doing will attract that wonderful, exciting love that you so deserve.
There’s a lot of advice out there on how to find love and they all vary greatly, but some suggestions on finding love continue to make sense even though they’ve been around for ages. Since love is a natural part of the human experience, it makes sense that the things that attract love into our lives are instinctual.
You can’t have a lasting love unless you’ve made space for that love in your heart and your life. If your heart is closed to love, there’s no place for it to go. This means it’s probably best if you’re over your ex and that you’re at a place where you’re open to the idea of a relationship.
If you want someone to love you, you need to love yourself. Yes, it’s a cliché but that doesn’t mean that it’s wrong. How can you respect the person who loves you if you think you’re unlovable and that there may be something wrong with them for loving you?
You also need to have a life that is wonderful and challenging all on its own. You shouldn’t depend on someone else to make your life better — it’s up to you to create the kind of life you want.
Being loved is incredible and we all deserve it. When you’re your best self and living a fantastic life, you will attract love. Who wouldn’t want to be associated with someone exciting, dynamic, and fabulous?
Here’s how to find love that you deserve, based on your zodiac sign.
ARIES (March 21 – April 19)
You aren’t afraid to put yourself out there. You almost always say yes — to spontaneous weekend getaways, group activities such as paintball, and even charity events like fundraisers and marches. Sometimes the best things in life come from the unplanned and the unexpected.
TAURUS (April 20 – May 20)
You get rid of those tapes that are on repeat in your head that tell you that you don’t deserve happiness or that you’ll never find love. You replace them with affirmations and you try to refocus on your positive characteristics and on all the love you already have in your life.
GEMINI (May 21 – June 20)
You’re not obsessed with finding love, you’re just more interested in having a great time in your life. You know that there’s more to life than romantic relationships and that love from one’s family and friends is still love. If you find your boo, then great; if not, there’s still a lot of good times to be had.
CANCER (June 21 – July 22)
You’re optimistic about love while at the same time you’re able to enjoy the pleasure of your own company. Take yourself out for dates? Why not? You’re amazing. You’re more concerned with growing as a person and getting out of your comfort zone than being upset because you’re still single.
LEO (July 23 – August 22)
You don’t change just to fit someone else’s preconceived idea of what you should be and you stay true to yourself. You live the life that you’ve created and you love it. You’d be miserable if you lived the life that other people thought you should have.
VIRGO (August 23 – September 22)
You work against your instinct for control and perfection. You don’t have a checklist of your perfect person — those only lead to frustration and unhappiness. You try to be open to whatever may happen and you attempt to look past flaws and imperfections. While your go-to is usually research, where love is concerned, you try to rely on your feelings.
LIBRA (September 23 – October 22)
While it can be challenging, you try not to take rejection personally and sometimes you’ve got to put yourself out there and make the first move. If you get rejected, you just move on. You don’t want to have any “woulda, shoulda, coulda” feelings when it comes to love.