When it comes to love, romance, relationships, and dating, knowing the right ones from the wrong ones can be a bit of a challenge, isn’t it? However, if you keep an eye out for a few, specific traits, then you will be able to understand who’s a keeper, and who isn’t.
You probably have a pretty good idea of the kind of person you’re attracted to. If you met a guy who had similar interests to you, and the physical attraction was there, you’d likely feel you finally found someone you “clicked” with.
But how many times have you met someone you clicked with initially… only to be disappointed later on? This brings us to an important question: what exactly makes a man an ideal life partner for you?
How do you know if your boyfriend or the man sitting across from you on a date can create with you the kind of relationship you deserve? How do you know if you’ll be able to lean on him during difficult times, if he’ll have your back, and if he’ll work with you to resolve the challenges any couple will face? What elevates him from just a fun date to a mate in heart, body, mind, and soul?
You don’t want just a date or a boyfriend, you want a “keeper” – someone who will be a true partner to you, for the long haul.
“The right one for you will move mountains to be with you – he won’t hide behind them.” – Mandy Hale
Is Your Date A Keeper?
Keepers exhibit a set of beliefs, actions, and ideals that keep relationships thriving through the good times and the bad. This doesn’t mean you need to compromise on physical attraction or other qualities that are important to you. It means that when you find someone you do click with, you’ll want to make sure they also have the qualities of a keeper.
4 Signs The Guy You’re Dating Is A Keeper
Keeper Trait #1: They’re self-accountable
Keepers are not afraid to question themselves. They clearly put knowledge ahead of ego-preservation, and seek ways to help their relationships stay successful. They ask themselves what they could do to change them for the better. They are not out to win at their partner’s expense.
Yet keepers don’t automatically give up their point of view when challenged. You know them by their combination of ego, strength, and flexibility. They not only hold their integrity under fire but also expect that kind of behavior from people they respect.
Keeper Trait #2: They see humor as a sacred part of relationships
People who find humor in life are more resilient to disappointments. They don’t laugh inappropriately or use humor to mock, but they do maintain the perspective that keeps them aware.
Yet they also have a keen sense of perspective and don’t use humor to lighten up situations that need to stay serious. They have learned the value of timing and a compassionate heart and can process sorrow and joy with the same gentle appreciation for life.
Related: 15 Signs She’s A Keeper
Keeper Trait #3: They’re authentic
Keepers feel responsible for what they say or do. They don’t pretend to be someone they are not, or automatically agree with something that they don’t. They want to be transparent because they don’t play games nor want to participate in any.
They’d rather hear the truth from others, too, even if it’s uncomfortable. Keepers choose partners who value them for their honesty. They don’t take that right lightly, nor do they use their authenticity to unnecessarily point out other’s faults.