7 Signs Someone Is Always Playing The Victim Role

Signs Playing Victim Role

3) They are emotionally draining.

In the beginning, you feel good about helping your friend with her unfortunate circumstances—but she creates a neediness and crippling dependency on friends or co-workers. Her refusal to take responsibility for her behavior that contributes to her problems drains your patience, energy and your emotions.

4) They are stuck in their life. 

Victims believe that they are powerless in their life and she will give you a list of reasons why she is frozen in life. You give her suggestions on how to improve her the quality of her life but she shrugs off your ideas.

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5) They hold grudges. 

The victim puts others down and finds fault in people to gain a sense of superiority. If you fall out of her graces, she will harbor her grievance against you and covertly seek to get revenge.

6) They have trouble being assertive.

The victim struggles to ask for what she wants and needs in life. She lacks healthy relationship boundaries and she is unable to stand up to someone who mistreats her.

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7) They will cut you out of their life.

If you try to make her look at the truth about her hurtful behaviour, she will suddenly and emphatically cut you out of her life and then she will trash you to others to get people to side with her.

In a nutshell, Rita dwelled on her hurtful past, telling sad stories about her childhood and marriage. She blamed everyone and everything for the problems in her life. She was extremely suspicious of others and she instigated gossip to turn her friends against someone she imagined had mistreated her.

She held her boyfriend responsible for her toxic relationship, and yet she was afraid to stand up his abuse because she feared his anger or he would abandon her. When I tried to make her face the truth about her irresponsible, self-destructive behaviour, she immediately cut me out of life and she began confiding her problems to another girlfriend

Written By Nancy Nichols
Originally Appeared On knowitallnancy.com
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Nancy Nichols

Nancy Nichols is a best-selling author, empowerment speaker, and the notorious Know-It-All Nancy blogger. Her self-help books promote self-esteem, relationship understanding and personal healing for women. Her book trilogy includes Secrets of the Ultimate Husband Hunter, Never Date A Dead Animal and God, Please Fix Me! You can find Nancy and her books at www.knowitallnancy.comView Author posts