Rising Above Victim Mentality and Getting Back Your Power

Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do or say is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions of others you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz

Even though it is not possible never to take anything personally or never ever blame others for your life’s situations, yet it is best not to keep that attitude. Don’t consider yourself as the victim of circumstances, as it puts you on a completely wrong track in your life.

In our formative years when our ego begins to take shape we gradually understand what kind of effect control and power over others has over social relationships. Similarly, surrendering your control and power in a relationship actually explains your desire to fall victim to the circumstances.
Why is it that some ego structures choose to play victim? Some of them lack in confidence. They lack the strength to take big decisions in life. Some are afraid of losing control and that is why they allow others to take control so that if something turns out wrong, they are able to put the blame on others. In this manner they are always able to ensure a safe position for themselves.

People who develop this type of mindset prepare themselves for great deal of misery, disappointment and failure. Relinquishing all control and power and placing them in the hands of someone else eventually gives rise to anger and frustration.

As Steve Maraboli said, “How would your life be different if…You stopped validating your victim mentality? Let today be the day…You shake off yourself defeating drama and embrace your innate ability to recover and achieve.” It is important to identify the behavior pattern that is typical of victim mentality. And that can be done by adopting two important things.

First, develop enough strength and use the positive energy to reach the consciousness level that helps you break free of victim mentality. Inner Integrity “When you complain you make yourself the victim. Leave the situation, change the situation, or accept it, all else is madness.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

When we fall victim to someone’s behavior or certain situations, we don’t even realize how and when it happened. Our inner integrity lets us identify the situation. Inner integrity is nothing but our true conscience that lets us see things is proper light. It helps us to be honest about our life experience without hiding behind a ‘because’.

For example, we may be used to saying something like: “I am in a bad mood because she didn’t reply to my message” or “I feel sad because you hurt me.”

 Most people are at the consciousness level where this reaction feels right. They tend to think the circumstances to be the sole reasons to cause negative emotions. But, when we develop the ability to look at things from different angles that we too are responsible for whatever is happening to us. Things can change if we only try to raise our awareness.

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4 COMMENTS

  1. Interesting reading! Nonetheless, my personal philosophy on this matter is as follows: 1) “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ~ Former US First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt; 2) “A lion doesn’t lose sleep over the opinion of sheep!” ~ source unknown;