How To Rise Above Victim Mentality and Get Back Your Power

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Donโ€™t take anything personally. Nothing others do or say is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions of others you wonโ€™t be the victim of needless suffering.โ€ ~ Don Miguel Ruiz

Even though it is not possible never to take anything personally or never ever blame others for your lifeโ€™s situations, yet it is best not to keep that attitude. Donโ€™t consider yourself as the victim of circumstances, as it puts you on a completely wrong track in your life.



In our formative years when our ego begins to take shape we gradually understand what kind of effect control and power over others has over social relationships. Similarly, surrendering your control and power in a relationship actually explains your desire to fall victim to the circumstances. When people choose to play the victim, they fail to rise above victim mentality.

Why is it that some ego structures choose to play victim?

Some of them lack in confidence. They lack the strength to take big decisions in life. Some are afraid of losing control and that is why they allow others to take control so that if something turns out wrong, they are able to put the blame on others. In this manner they are always able to ensure a safe position for themselves.

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People who develop this type of mindset prepare themselves for a great deal of misery, disappointment, and failure. Relinquishing all control and power and placing them in the hands of someone else eventually gives rise to anger and frustration.

As Steve Maraboli said, โ€œHow would your life be different ifโ€ฆYou stopped validating your victim mentality? Let today be the dayโ€ฆYou shake off yourself defeating drama and embrace your innate ability to recover and achieve.โ€

It is important to identify the behavior pattern that is typical of victim mentality. Only then one can rise above victim mentality. And that can be done by adopting two important things.

First, develop enough strength and use the positive energy to reach the consciousness level that helps you break free of victim mentality. Inner Integrity

โ€œWhen you complain you make yourself the victim. Leave the situation, change the situation, or accept it, all else is madness.โ€ ~ Eckhart Tolle

When we fall victim to someoneโ€™s behavior or certain situations, we donโ€™t even realize how and when it happened. Our inner integrity lets us identify the situation. Inner integrity is nothing but our true conscience that lets us see things is proper light. It helps us to be honest about our life experience without hiding behind a โ€˜becauseโ€™.




For example, we may be used to saying something like: โ€œI am in a bad mood because she didnโ€™t reply to my messageโ€ or โ€œI feel sad because you hurt me.โ€

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Most people are at the consciousness level where this reaction feels right. They tend to think of the circumstances to be the sole reason to cause negative emotions. But, when we develop the ability to look at things from different angles that we too are responsible for whatever is happening to us. Things can change if we only try to raise our awareness and rise above victim mentality.

We are still in the state of mind which is not capable of dealing with people, places, and situations that trigger negative emotions like sadness, anger, envy, etc. It means that our mind needs healing to overcome these emotions.

If we feel anger, it only means that we attract such circumstances that reveal to us that we bear within our emotional body unhealed anger that requires attention. We can see this only from a higher level of consciousness.

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How will awareness help you rise above victim mentality?

Awareness is the first step to dealing with any emotion that wreaks havoc within us. Itโ€™s important to move past these emotions and that would be possible when we stop associating an exterior reason or a cause behind the circumstances that led to them.




And when we do that we develop so much strength that these emotions have no power on us, we can deal with them head-on.

It is the higher state of oneโ€™s self that is empowered. In this state we are thankful for whatever happens as we are healed to the core. Our perspective is expanded and we find ourselves in a loving place.

You then understand the strength of love and realize love is the only weapon man was ever given.

 โ€œKindness is loving people more than they deserve.โ€ ~ Joseph Joubert

There is also another way of looking at it. We can borrow the example from the spiritual masters like the Dalai Lama, Jesus, Buddha, and others. They showed us that it is possible no to control, manipulate, or exert force on others, and still not blame them for anything.




How did these spiritual masters found completeness within their own being while they were insulted, abused, and even persecuted? How did they remain unaffected and blessed everyone around them?

These great souls knew that love alone has power. They were at such a high level of consciousness that they could not only love themselves unconditionally and bless everyone but they humbly accepted everyone the way they are.

When we have such love within us, we are able to identify the innocent heart behind an angry demeanor. We address their anger with love rather than blaming them or resorting to violence to defend ourselves against them.

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So, when someone treats you poorly, realize that their reaction is the pain in which they are engulfed and their attack is not necessarily directed to us. However, this argument should not be used to put up with mental and physical abuse in any form.

People in pain are more likely to act under the effect of anger. When we have extended levels of awareness we are capable of offering love to all and it comes out of the realization that all people deserve to be love. The mean and venomous, even more.



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The ability to be completely honest with oneself about their life experiences is the only tool and using love is the only โ€œdefense mechanismโ€ to deal with people who try to victimize us. With time when this realization dawns on us we are not only healed from within but also heal those have pained us.

The love power is so strong that the โ€˜bullyโ€™ with these people will escape and they will ultimately surrender their scare tactics to gain power on us. And when they come in contact with someone who is full of love, the darkness within them fades and they too are lifted to higher levels of consciousness.

What do you do to rise above victim mentality and get back your power? Let me know in comments.


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