7. They never respect your time, but expect you to respect theirs.
Another thing you will notice if you are a victim of pocketing is that they never seem to respect your time. They just turn up whenever and expect you to just go with it, without even asking once whether you are free or not. Whenever they contact you, they expect you to say yes, and if you don’t they throw a fit about how difficult you are; you are always expected to drop whatever you are doing and run to them whenever they ‘need’ you.
On the other hand, as far as their time is concerned, nothing matters more than that, and you are supposed to respect that. If you want to meet up with them, but they are busy you should understand that. They will ditch you whenever they please, even at the last moment, but you just have to ‘understand’ that they have ‘important things’ to do.
What Should You Do If You Are A Victim Of Pocketing?
If you reckon that you are being pocketed, then the best thing to do is openly talk about your feelings with your partner. It might be an uncomfortable and scary conversation, but you need to tell them how you feel, and that you deserve better. Ask them why they are hiding you from everyone, despite being together for quite some time, and is there anything you should know about.
Most importantly, ask them where both of you stand because you deserve some clarity and transparency. Yes, this might be a scary conversation to have but it’s better to know the whole truth rather than be with someone who might never want a serious relationship with you in the long run. It’s always better to walk away from a half-hearted relationship than stay in one and experience more humiliation and loneliness.
On the flip side, you might get to know that they didn’t realize they were pocketing you; they simply weren’t ready. An open and transparent conversation might make them realize their mistake, and gradually they will feel more optimistic and comfortable about you meeting their family and friends.
Communicating freely can help both of you understand each other better, take into consideration what the other person is feeling, and what their opinions, needs, and expectations are.
Have you ever been on the other side of pocketing? Let us know your thoughts in the comments down below!