13 Signs Of A Toxic Parent That Many People Don’t Realize

 July 21, 2016

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13 Signs Of A Toxic Parent That Many People Don’t Realize



When your childhood is enmeshed by a toxic parent and you fail to realize it. 

Most parents genuinely do their best to provide their children with a healthy upbringing but often times these very individuals may make mistakes. Parenting is a tricky job and its mostly based on intuition and instincts.

Unfortunately, some parents  go beyond the occasional mistake and veer into the toxic category.

Regardless of whether or not a parent is purposefully being toxic, there are a number of behaviours on the parents’ part which leave considerable psychological and emotional scar on the child. This invariably hampers the over all mental health of the child as he/she steps into adulthood.

 

If you experienced any of the following situations as a child, the odds are high that one or both of your parents were at least slightly toxic.

1. They Fail To Provide You With Affirmation And Security

Some people believe that showering a careless love is an important way to ensure that their children become self-reliant and are able to take care of themselves in the future.




If you were the recipient of this approach of parenting on a regular basis, you might have been tricked to believe that this was the behavior you deserved, or the treatment meant for your betterment.

If you apparently fall apart now because of any perceived failure or rejection, then this most likely stems from a parent’s toxic inability to provide you with the necessary amount of security, containment and affirmation while you were young.

Tough love might work sometimes, but it cannot be the only approach a parent takes if they want their child to have a overall wholesome future.

 

2. They Are Overly Critical

Parents should occasionally involve in appraising their children with feedback about their actions.

Without this component, we might never learn how to do numerous things in the correct way, such as everyday chores like washing laundry, cooking food for ourselves, ironing clothes, organizing our personal stuffs etc.

A toxic parent takes this to extremes by being overly critical about everything their child does. Even trivial mistakes on the parts of the children will bring about grim consequences.

These criticisms can have distinct faces – some through poisonous verbal abuse in the form of insults, explicit, harsh facial expression and neglectful body languages.

This technique will only back fire for some children will eventually commit graver mistakes and some children will end up feeling miserable about themselves, slipping into self-loathing.




Parents can make the mistake of believing that they do this to make sure their children avoid making costly mistakes.

Unfortunately, what this behavior really does is causing the child to develop a detrimental inner conflict that can be borderline crippling during adulthood.

 

3. They Demand Your Attention

Toxic parents often turn their children into their own parental substitutes and dumping grounds for their own frustrations by demanding their attention at all times.

This can be seen as bonding between the parent and child, but in actuality  it is a parasitic relationship that requires too much of the child’s time and energy when they should be focused on learning other skills.




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