The man you are dating right now, do you have a constant niggling feeling that something is missing with him in your relationship? Does he find a way of bringing up his ex in every conversation he has with you? And most importantly, does he seem distant even when he is physically present with you? If you answered yes to all these questions, then chances are that your man is carrying a broken heart.
And a man with a broken heart will surely break yours, and it’s just a matter of time. It’s better to be alone and single than becoming someone’s rebound. Your man might tell you that he has come to terms with the breakup of his previous relationship, but that doesn’t mean he still doesn’t have a broken heart.
Before you fall head over in heels in love with a broken-hearted man, know that it never ends well. If you don’t want your heart broken, then you need to look out for signs that show a man is carrying a broken heart. Only after you know and understand everything, make your decision.
Here Are 8 Subtle Signs A Man Is Carrying A Broken Heart
1. He isn’t very keen on commitment.
He is into you and the sex is amazing. But whenever you broach the topic of commitment, he either freezes up or shuts you out. He feels extremely uncomfortable with the conversation and tries to distract and deviate from it.
You feel like sometimes he is drawing you closer, and the very next moment he is pushing you away. This blow-hot, blow-cold attitude might be a big sign that he has a broken heart.
2. He is withdrawn most of the time.
When you find your man withdrawn and silent from you, for the most part, it might be because he is thinking about his past relationship, and how it ended. He can’t really understand why his past relationship was so unfair.
A close examination of the past gets him to think about nothing. When he has thought about everything, and he can’t get a reason for the breakup, he embarks on nothing. These two are reasons enough to give push a man to withdraw. If your man keeps on withdrawing from your emotions, then it’s maybe because he still hasn’t moved on from the pain of his past relationship.
3. He makes negative and bitter comments about love.
If you find him talking negatively and bitterly about love, and anything even remotely related to it, then take it as a sign that he is still in pain. He carries a lot of resentment, hurt, and anger in himself because of his past breakup, and that is why he talks badly about love.
Do you really want to be with someone who is still stuck in his past, hasn’t moved on from it even a little bit, and considers love to be one of the worst things ever? Do you really want to be with someone like that?
4. He never seems to trust you.
One of the major signs that the man you are dating is carrying a broken heart, is when he exhibits trust issues. No matter what you do to convince him that he is the only one for you, he will always distrust you and find ways to justify his stance. He is not controlling, but he will always doubt what you are saying and what you are doing.
It will only be after a lot of mollycoddling and convincing will he decide to trust you, and that too only a little bit. He sometimes feels bad for not being able to trust you, and that is another sign of his broken heart.
5. He suffers from low self-worth.
Because he has had his heart broken in the past, it has made him believe that he is not good enough. He suffers from low self-esteem and low self-worth and constantly questions himself. He sees himself in a very sad and negative light and even asks why you have feelings for him in the first place.
If you find your man constantly belittling and questioning himself, and never seems to believe any of the nice things you have to say about him, know that his self-esteem has gone down the drain, because of what has happened in his past.
6. He constantly compares you with his ex.
Now, this sign is the last nail on the coffin. The moment he compares you to his ex, it’s clear that he still hasn’t moved on from them. Comparing your current partner with your ex-partner is unacceptable, to say the least, and this is one of those things which you should never tolerate.
A man who is genuinely interested in you, and wants to be with you will never compare you with their ex, even their mind. The moment you find him doing this, know that it’s time to close this chapter, and move on.
7. He blows hot and cold.
Sometimes, he is completely into you, and sometimes it seems like you don’t exist for him at all. Sometimes he openly communicates with you about his feelings, and sometimes he shuts you out entirely. This blow-hot, blow-cold attitude is a red flag, and shows that he doesn’t know how to handle his feelings, and might still be hung up on his ex.
When a man has moved on from his past relationships, and has no feelings for his ex-partner, he will never make you feel confused. But when you find him constantly struggling with his inner conflict, that’s a bad sign.
8. He is too mysterious and closed-off.
When your man acts too mysterious, it means he has something to hide, most probably a broken heart. And whenever you try to know him a little bit deeper, he will try to stop you and block you in any way he can.
If the man you are dating is not giving you the opportunity and the respect to know him for who he truly is, then is he really worth the effort? Sure, a little bit of mystery doesn’t hurt, but if he keeps on blocking you, then maybe it’s time for you to give up and move on.
Before you give up your heart for someone, try to know whether they are ready to give you back the love you are giving them. Unless he makes peace with his past and mends his heart, he will keep on hurting you, knowingly or unknowingly. And why would you get your heart broken, just because couldn’t deal with his?