But when the person you are dating insists or rather demands that you spend all your time with them, and throws a tantrum if you refuse to, well that’s a huge red flag. In healthy relationships, both the partners like to spend time with each other, and also like to do their own thing. But when your partner refuses to give you any personal space and doesn’t respect any of your boundaries, then maybe it’s time to rethink the relationship.
Because if you don’t shut this down as soon as possible, you might find yourself in not just an emotionally abusive relationship, but a physically violent one too.
4. They call and text you round the clock.
There are some people who don’t text back or even pick up your calls, and when you ask them about it, they simply shrug their shoulders and tell you that they were busy. And then there are people who call and text you back the moment they are free. It feels amazing, doesn’t it, to have someone who cares about you and what you have to say? Good morning and good night texts and calls at lunch hour, and prompt replies, no matter how busy they might be. Sounds like a dream, doesn’t it?
It might be, except when it gets too suffocating and creepy. If the person you are dating is constantly calling you and texting you and wants to know what you are doing at all times, then that’s one of the biggest glaring signs of emotional abuse. This is their way of keeping a track of your whereabouts when they are not with you, and it shows that they are extremely possessive and jealous.
A healthy amount of possessiveness is alright, but too much of anything is unacceptable. After a point, their jealousy will seem like a noose around your neck.
5. They apologize every time, and talk about new beginnings.
“An apology without change is just manipulation.”
You must have heard this adage before, and this is perfect when it comes to understanding this sign of emotional abuse disguised as love. Whenever you call them out on their cunning and abusive tactics, they will instantly dial it down and ask for your forgiveness. But don’t be swayed by their sweet words, as it is just temporary. They apologize because it’s a temporary solution; the moment things go back to normal from your side, they will also go back to their abusive ways.
They will never leave you and will go out of their way to pacify you. They will tell you all the right things about how much they love you, and cannot live without you, and how empty their life would be without you in it. All this is a part of their elaborate act of showing they ‘love’ you. The moment things are okay, they will start doing the same things over and over again, and this vicious cycle will continue.
6. They want to know what you are up to all the time.
When your partner wants to know where you are at all times, when you are not with them, then that’s something you should not take lightly. If you have to be accountable for your every movement, then is that really a healthy thing to indulge in? They might say that they care about you and your safety and are simply looking out for you, but this is all nonsense.
No matter how convincing and sincere they might sound, never let them control you to this extent. Be careful that they don’t take your phone and turn on the ‘share location’ button so that they can keep a watch on you, every minute of every day. No one in a healthy relationship even thinks of doing this to their partner.