If it is something like “I love you, but I’m not in love with you,” then you have a far stickier problem on your hands. You’ll need to figure out what kind of cheating you can live with and what is impossible, what you just don’t want to know, and what you’re getting in return for putting up with infidelity.
If it seems like your partner had the affair or encounter with a deliberate eye to hurt you or humiliate you – i.e., with your colleague, in public etc – then you might want to just gather yourself with as much dignity as possible and move on.
Make it work, if you must
If you are absolutely going to stay together, then negotiate everything down to the last detail and set out penalties and deal-breakers clearly.
Decide how much forgiveness you are willing to extend, but make it unconditional. Try not to confuse issues. If your partner forgets to clean out the refrigerator or do the laundry, do not use those as excuses to bring up their cheating. The only way this will work is if you can move past negative emotions such as hurt, anger, and resentment.
Do you remember Hillary in the face of the Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky, I-did-not-have-sexual-relations-with-that-woman scandal?
Good ol’ Hillary stayed with the President of the United States for reasons that are very visible to us today. Do you have similar reasons? If not, pack your bags and walk out with your head held high.
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