When Your Relationship Anxiety Makes You Feel Unloved

Kelly Douglas

 / 

,
When Your Relationship Anxiety Makes You Feel Unloved

If you live with anxiety, you may constantly doubt your relationship, wondering if your partner will remain faithful or break your heart. You may ruminate over the dynamic between you and your partner, looking for signs that something is amiss. But above all else, you may feel unloved, even when your partner is loving and supportive.

Having Anxiety And Being In A Relationship Is Hard AF

You may take your partner’s love language as a sign that they don’t love you. You might see your partner’s physical touch or loving gestures as confusing, wondering why they aren’t telling you how much they love you. You may remind yourself that everyone shows love differently, but still feel like your partner’s love isn’t clear enough for you to see.

You might feel as though your partner is unable to communicate with you in the way you need or that they’ve stopped wanting to be with you entirely. And you may yearn to feel loved in the ways that speak to you, but worry if you share your feelings, your partner will leave.

You may feel like you can never stop questioning what’s on your partner’s mind, wondering if they truly mean what they say. You might read extra layers of meaning into their words and interpret their gentle critiques as a sign they’re ready to walk away. You may be afraid to ask them to share their feelings in case they tell you that they don’t love you. And you might find that your doubts consume you, even when you feel safest in your partner’s arms.

Also read Do You Need A Partner To Have A Happy Life? Research Attempts To Answer This

You may wonder what your partner sees in you, viewing yourself through the lens of your anxiety instead of seeing yourself through their eyes. You might feel like you’re the sum of your perceived faults, not a loving, caring, kind person who wants to love and be loved.

You may wonder if your partner’s eyes will wander if they’ll find someone who has all of the qualities you perceive that you lack. And you might self-sabotage, downplaying your best qualities and letting your anxiety convince you that you’re unlovable, even when your partner has every reason to love you.

When your relationship anxiety makes you feel unloved, remember the moments your partner had actively shown their love — the times they hold you in their arms, the moments they take extra tasks off your hands and the instances when they tell you how much they adore you. Remind yourself of the times your partner has prioritized you or spoken your love language. Recall of the times they’ve established trust and shown you that no matter what your anxiety forces you to believe, you’re their one and only.

relationship anxiety

Your relationship anxiety may feel all-consuming, racing through your heart and mind more quickly than you can cope with it. It might make you feel like you feel disconnected from your partner — alone and unloved. But when you look for the little signs that your partner truly does love you, you can quiet your anxiety and remind yourself of the truth — you’re always worthy of love.

Also read 10 Signs You Have Found A Soulmate In A Friend

Please share this article with anyone who you may think will find it valuable and helpful.

Written by: Kelly Douglas
Originally appeared on: The Mighty
Republished with permission
When Your Relationship Anxiety Makes You Feel Unloved pin

— Share —

, , , , , , , , , , , ,

— About the Author —

Kelly Douglas

I’m Kelly Douglas, a passionate freelance writer, a meticulous editor, avid mental health and disability advocate, and a twenty-something woman with a psychology degree, a lust for life, and a little sparkle. Join me for musings on mental health, disability, personal development, and millennial life as I experience life as a “psyched” writer… and pet as many cats as I can along the way.

Leave a Reply



Up Next

Taylor Swift’s ‘Tortured Poets Department’ Is A Wake-Up Call For All Those In Situationships

Tortured Poets Department And Situationships: Lessons To Learn

Taylor Swift’s most recent album, “The Tortured Poets Department,” explores current relationships and sheds light on what many call “situationships.” With powerful words and haunting tunes, she describes the emotional roller coaster that happens when love is mixed with confusion.

Situationships And The Tortured Poets Department Taylor Swift

On her eleventh studio album – which was met with both excitement and trepidation – Swift talks about her person



Up Next

This Viral ‘Bird Test’ Can Predict If Your Relationship Will Last

Unique Bird Test: Can Your Romantic Relationship Pass It?

The “bird test” is a viral TikTok trend and it is a unique way of assessing reciprocation in relationships. So, are you ready to validate (or expose) your relationship? Let’s go!

As users evaluate their significant others with the “orange peel theory” — which measures how willing they are to do small favors for you — another concept has taken hold of the platform recently: the bird test relationship.

So, What Is The Bird Test For Relationships?



Up Next

Dive Into The Mind Of A Distancer: The Partner Who Pulls Away

Discover The Mind Of A Distancer: Things To Know Well

Pursuer distancer relationships cause a lot of heartache, especially for a pursuer. Learn about the mind of a distancer to understand your own or your partner’s behavior so you won’t take it personally.

As codependants, we usually gravitate toward insecure relationships where we’re a distancer or a pursuer. We may be a distancer in one relationship and a pursuer in the next. This is due to early attachment problems and dysfunctional parenting.

Reacting makes it worse! A distancer reacting by withdrawing or the pursuer reacting by pursuing exacerbates conflict and unhappiness.

Understand The Mind Of A Distancer



Up Next

What Does Reverse Psychology Mean And How To Use It To Get What You Want

What Does Reverse Psychology Mean and How to Use It

Sometimes things go exactly the way you want them to. Other times, not so much. Especially when you are dealing with people. So how can you turn things in your favor without being manipulative? Two words: reverse psychology. But what does reverse psychology mean?

Sometimes, the conventional methods of persuasion fail, leaving us perplexed and frustrated. Reverse psychology is a fascinating technique that can turn the tables and unlock hidden paths to influence and persuasion. Its positive strategy for positive results.

Let’s dive deep into exploring its meaning, and understanding how does reverse psychology work and even explore how to use reverse psychology on a narcissist. So, buckle up and get ready to uncover the captivating world of reverse psychology.



Up Next

Stop Texting Your Ex ‘Happy Birthday’ – Here Are 5 Reasons Why!

Stop Texting Your Ex Happy Birthday: Important Reasons

Have you found yourself scrolling through Snapchat memories, thinking of texting your ex happy birthday? You think to yourself, can sending a simple “Happy Birthday” text hurt? But don’t be fooled by temptation – it’s never a good idea.

Life is full of ups and downs, but some things are better left alone. Making contact with them on their special day could stir up old emotions and put you in a tough place.

It not only opens doors to issues but also sends mixed signals, confuses both parties involved, and even more so can bring back haunting memories that should stay in the



Up Next

Are Screenshots Ruining Your Dating Experience? Exploring 5 Pros and Cons

Are Screenshots Ruining Dating? Clear Pros And Cons

Screenshots can make things easier, but also much more difficult. So… are screenshots ruining dating? Let’s find out the pros and cons of it!

In the time we live in, technology has changed nearly every aspect of socializing and dating. One common feature that’s become increasingly prevalent is the screenshot.

Today we’ll be going over five ways screenshots are both beneficial and detrimental to today’s dating experience.

Are Screenshots Ruining Dating?

Let’s learn how screenshots ruin relationships in the modern world.



Up Next

Does Having High Standards Undermine Your Love Life? 4 Ways It Can Go Wrong

Having High Standards In Relationships Ruins Love In Ways

Does having high standards in relationships make it harder for you to fall in love? It’s common — setting impossible standards can keep us away from opportunities. Let’s learn how and what to do about it!

People have the tendency to use the “not my type” excuse to build that distance.

Why worry about types when you haven’t even said hello yet? Because these are myths about relationships and defense mechanisms, just like an invisible wall between you and the potential connection.

— Follow Us —