5. They don’t know how to maintain a proper relationship
In keeping with their habit of being attracted to abusive people outside of their family circle, their lack of knowledge about a healthy and happy relationship combined with their warped view of the world almost always results in them hurting themselves even when they find a kind and compassionate partner. Since they’re always waiting for the other shoe to drop, they often pre-empt disaster by bringing it on themselves.
In this process, they hurt not only themselves but, more often than not, their partners as well. Usually, they do not mean to but once the damage is done, there is no going back. They’re always waiting for their partner to hurt or leave them and if they suspect even the slightest sign of either of these things, they’ll lash out to save themselves because pain is all they know to expect.
6. They don’t know what to make of their own emotions
Very early in their lives, people who belong to abusive families learn how to keep their emotions at bay. They keep it all in because drawing attention to them equates to welcoming more abuse than they would face otherwise. As they grow older, this habit of hiding things away only gets worse because they’ve become so used to it that they can’t really understand what they’re feeling.
Besides being unable to express their true feelings, they themselves often cannot understand their own emotions. After wearing a mask for most of their formative years, they’ve become so good at pretending that they can’t tell the difference between their pretense and what they’re actually going through. Therefore they’re unable to deal with any emotional issues that might crop up because they don’t even know that they have problems in the first place.
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