6 Reasons Why Growing Up In An Abusive Family Prevents You From Being Happy

 August 30, 2018

6 Reasons Why Growing Up In An Abusive Family Prevents You From Being Happy

3. They find it very hard to express themselves even to those they care about.

Having had to keep their feelings to themselves for most of their lives, those who’ve had to deal with abusive families usually do not learn how to communicate with the people around them. For them, the concept of discussing a personal problem and finding a solution for it does not even exist. They are much better at bottling up their emotions.

Not only does this make it hard for them to form lasting and close relationships with others outside their families, this also leaves them unable to speak up when someone is stepping all over them. Without being able to defend themselves, they knowingly or unknowingly become doormats for others to casually step over. They end up being taken advantage of and this only causes them more pain than what they’ve already been through.


4. They keep getting into abusive relationships outside their families

Being used to abuse is a very hard habit to break. Often these people don’t even realize that relationships and families are not actually meant to be so painful. After having seen abuse and pain all their lives, they don’t have any model for what a happy and stable relationship looks like so they only go towards what they already know.

Unfortunately, this leaves them stuck in a cycle of more and more abusive relationships. Even as they grow older and meet more people, they tend to get into abusive friendships and even go on to find abusive partners. The pain can sometimes even become an addiction which is even harder to get out of. People who are just as bad as their families find it easy to get their claws into them and use them however they please.


5. They don’t know how to maintain a proper relationship

In keeping with their habit of being attracted to abusive people outside of their family circle, their lack of knowledge about a healthy and happy relationship combined with their warped view of the world almost always results in them hurting themselves even when they find a kind and compassionate partner. Since they’re always waiting for the other shoe to drop, they often pre-empt disaster by bringing it on themselves.

In this process, they hurt not only themselves but, more often than not, their partners as well. Usually, they do not mean to but once the damage is done, there is no going back. They’re always waiting for their partner to hurt or leave them and if they suspect even the slightest sign of either of these things, they’ll lash out to save themselves because pain is all they know to expect.


6. They don’t know what to make of their own emotions

Very early in their lives, people who belong to abusive families learn how to keep their emotions at bay. They keep it all in because drawing attention to them equates to welcoming more abuse than they would face otherwise. As they grow older, this habit of hiding things away only gets worse because they’ve become so used to it that they can’t really understand what they’re feeling.

Besides being unable to express their true feelings, they themselves often cannot understand their own emotions. After wearing a mask for most of their formative years, they’ve become so good at pretending that they can’t tell the difference between their pretense and what they’re actually going through. Therefore they’re unable to deal with any emotional issues that might crop up because they don’t even know that they have problems in the first place.

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