4. Take up new activities.
You’ll need to fill your schedule so you don’t end up spending too much time alone. But it’s also worthwhile to create new memories, which take up more mental space than falling back on your old routine. These new memories can broaden the psychological distance between you and your ex.
5. Stay healthy.
It’s harder to feel terrible when your body feels great, so get better sleep, eat well, and exercise more. Do this even if you find it difficult to get motivated. If nothing else, exercise can serve as a welcome change to your routine and productively fill your schedule.
6. Try mindfulness meditation.
Find five to ten minutes every morning to sit, breathe, and stay in the present moment. Meditation can help with stress, improve blood flow, reduce anxiety, and simply help you become more comfortable with the flow of your own thoughts.
Again, there are no real shortcuts to getting over the end of a significant relationship. Good self-care will help you through the times when you feel your lowest, and a sensible restriction of the people, places, and things that remind you of your ex may help to keep you from feeling that way for very long.
Lastly, opening yourself up to new experiences can both alter your perspective and help you put valuable psychological distance between yourself and the breakup. Eventually, you should see the world differently — and begin to feel like yourself again.
- Corliss, J. (October 3, 2017). Mindfulness meditation may ease anxiety, mental stress. Retrieved from https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/mindfulness-meditation-may-ease-anxiety-mental-stress-201401086967
- Draaisma, D. (2012). Why Life Speeds Up As You Get Older: How Memory Shapes our Past. Cambridge, England: Cambridge University Press.
- Kübler-Ross, E. (2007). On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss. New York: Scribner.
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Getting over a bad breakup can be an immensely painful thing to do, but at the same time, you need to do it. You cannot keep on holding to your past relationship and constantly hope that things will change. This can end up hurting you over and over again, and make the process of healing all the more difficult. So, you need to move on and close that chapter. Follow these strategies, heal yourself, and slowly move on.
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