13 Practical Strategies To Handle Being Mad or Angry

strategies to handle being mad or angry

[Sometimes even good Christian people have trouble “letting go” of being mad or angry. Learn how to handle anger or being mad with practical strategies.]

“I’ll Be Mad for You”

She would stomp her little foot and declare, “I’ll be mad for you.”

This is what I noticed My niece’s three-year-old would say when she saw something she thought was not right–for anyone!

It didn’t take much, and she would cross her little arms, poke out her bottom lip, tip her head, and assume the “mad posture.”

She looked so comical, but I dared not laugh.

The adult was not mad, so she was going to be mad for them.

As a three-year-old, she was learning all about her emotions, and what to be mad about and what to “let go.”

Here and Now

Sometimes we all have trouble “letting go” of things that have made us mad or offended us.

Recently in the United States, we have had many opportunities to be mad “at” public officials or be mad “for” public officials in some way.

When Jesus went back to His hometown of Nazareth, His family, friends, and all the locals were offended by Him.

They had certain expectations, and when He did not meet their expectations, they took offense (Matt 13:54-57).

Offenses will come, and yet, offenses are places of stumbling and hurt. We must learn how to avoid the stumble.

Have you ever been around someone who is always angry at something or somebody?

The cashier at Wal-Mart always bags their stuff wrong. The food server never gets what their order right. They always get short-changed.

They are always angry and offended. And if something happens to you they don’t like, they will be angry for you. Yes, mad for you.

Why Should We Deal with Our Anger And Not Take Offense?

Many people have become accustomed to living mad and may not even be aware of how unhappy they have become living day-after-day in toxic anger.

One indicator of progress in our emotional and spiritual life is to look at how we handle anger and offense.

Progress and growth produce the good fruit of righteousness.

Yet, sometimes little weeds get in the garden of our life.

One Minute Of Anger Weakens the Immune System
13 Practical Strategies To Handle Being Mad or Angry

Each Christian believer has a high purpose to love God, love others, and exhibit His glory—the righteousness, splendor, beauty, and goodness of His love.

We are ambassadors of God’s goodness to one another.

The apostle James tells us that human anger does not produce the good fruit of righteousness that God desires (James 1:20)[1]

What Makes You Angry?

There are a variety of elements that fuel human anger.

Human anger is sometimes an expression of selfishness or a desire to control our circumstances.

People can use anger to help get their own way or push their agenda. People can use anger to manipulate or intimidate.

Anger sometimes is fueled by injustice or a perceived injustice. In some way, expectations have not been met.

To find the truth of the situation you need to look at the motivations behind the anger.

Underlying expressions of anger may come from a fear of injustice, or the injustice may be very real.

However, our reactions are a matter to be examined.  

In the fever of being angry, people tend to believe they are the only morally right ones.

Things should go their way. Their view is the only right view.

There is no room for anyone else’s ideas or perceptions. They should not be treated in any way contrary to their wishes.

They should not have to change personally. They are not at fault in any way. Hum. . .

What We Lose

Where There Is Anger, There Is Pain
13 Practical Strategies To Handle Being Mad or Angry

When we give into anger we lose our self-control and peace.

When we stubbornly hold onto anger, we can lose our integrity and others’ trust.

We can lose relationships with friends and relatives, and we can become hateful, abusive, and destructive.

Anger cannot be kept in a box. It explodes onto others and leads to many harmful behaviors.

Research shows that “telling them a thing or two,” or “giving them a piece of your mind,” or “letting it rip” out of anger does not help you or the other person.

It escalates anger and aggression rather than resolving the situation.[2]

The better solution is to honestly look at what triggers your anger and find strategies to help resolve it.

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Dr. Cynthia Johnson

Dr. Cynthia K. Johnson is an ordained Christian minister, leader, speaker, and author. Rev. Johnson loves to equip others with practical skills to succeed in life and grow in intimacy with Jesus Christ. Learn to live in more peace, love, and joy at www.drcynthiajohnson.com.View Author posts