Life will always be full of ups and downs, with the latter sometimes happening more than than the former. But no matter how tough life might get, it is essential to learn to be grateful for everything that it throws at you. When you learn to be grateful for what life gives you, be it good or bad, you will be able to see the valuable lessons that are there behind every bad experience.
The best part about life is how unpredictable it can be. Unfortunately, that can also be what many consider to be the worst part of life too. The unpredictable roller-coaster of life offers many people the hope for a better tomorrow. It also creates the worry that others have that causes them to wait for “the other shoe to drop”.
This brings the question of how should you handle sad things. If sad things are a part of life, why does it seem some handle life a little better than others?
The key lies within the perspective you give the events in your life.
When sad things happen to you or someone you know, what do you tell yourself? If you speak negatively to yourself and internalize the event, then you are only going to make things worse. When you tell yourself “you always mess up“ or “you deserve this bad thing to happen in your life“, you turn yourself into the victim.
Do not allow sad things in your life to become your life. Instead, assign the blame outside of yourself.
Tell yourself things like, “this could have happened to anyone“ or “things could have been much worse.“ This subtle shift in mindset enables you to bounce back much quicker. This is because you are no longer assigning your self-value based on the events in your life.
It is never fun to blame yourself for things you could not control. That is why it is better to focus on what you can control; things like your attitude, reaction, and mindset when you are sad.
Instead of focusing on what went wrong, try to focus on what went right. It is rare that everything goes wrong. Even though you may feel that way in the moment, if you take a moment to assess the situation, you will realize there is always something to be grateful about.
Here’s how to give these sad things meaning and learn to be grateful about them:
1. Death of a parent.
The death of a loved one is always difficult, especially your parent. They have mentored, cared, and given you the best years of their life. They believed in you when others doubted you and they were always your biggest fan. It feels like there is a void that will never be filled.
Keep in mind that the beauty of life is the fact that it ends. That is what makes how we live each day so important. One of the cool things about a funeral is all the stories you get to hear about the person. It is a reminder that they were human just like you. They had dreams, aspirations, and fears. Funerals should be focused on celebrating the life more than mourning the death.
2. Being diagnosed with a disease.
You are sitting in the doctor’s office. You have not been feeling well over the past couple of weeks and assume it is nothing big. You probably went to the doctor just to be on the safe side. The doctor sends you home and says they will call in the week with the results. A few days later, you get the call from the doctor’s office and find out you have a serious disease.
This can feel like a punch to the gut. You went from feeling invincible to feeling like your life will never be the same. Whenever you have the ability to know what is going on inside of you, think of it as a blessing. Your body is designed to signal to you when things are not working at optimum levels.