7. You Still Have Hope.
This is the hardest reason why you can’t break up with someone – doing so will mean that you have to give up hope around living happily ever after.
One of my clients met the person she thought was the love of her life. And then she realized that he wasn’t. But, she was so focused on getting married and starting a family that she just couldn’t let go of her relationship. Because she wanted what she wanted in her life, she just couldn’t let go of the fact that if she broke up with her guy, her dreams would be even further away. So, she hung on longer than she should have, putting off finding the guy of her dreams even more.
So, if you still have hope for your relationship, I respect that. But I encourage you to give it a good hard look and see if your hope is based on your relationship or based on what you want for your life. If it’s the first, keep fighting. If it’s the second, it’s time to move on.
Knowing that you can’t break up with someone, even if you know that you should, is very frustrating and exhausting.
Lots of time and effort is spent going back and forth on the pluses and minuses, recovering from crying jags and feeling hopeless about the future. Basically, your life can be put on hold while you try to break up with someone you should break up with.
Knowing, and accepting, that there are reasons why you can’t break up with someone is the best way to be able to take the steps to do so.
Go through the checklist above. Consider those that apply to you. If you can work your way through them, you just might find that you have the clarity to break up with someone, for both of your own goods.
You can do this! And, if you do, you will give yourself the chance to live happily ever after!