Are you wondering if it’s time to break up with someone who is making you miserable? Are you unhappy in your relationship but perhaps rationalizing why you should stay, wondering if things would be different with someone else?
Are you scared that you might be making a mistake if you walk away and worried that you might never be happy again?
Let me help you.
Deciding to let go of someone you love is a very hard thing to do. Much like the hope that a coma victim will wake up, the hope of resurrecting lost love is one that’s hard to let go of.
So, how do you know when it’s time to break up with someone? Check out my list below. If any, or all, of these criteria, fit your situation then perhaps it’s time to end your relationship and move on.
Here Are 5 Signs That it’s Time to Break Up With Someone
1. Can You Talk About Things?
Relationships are very intense and very personal. A key part of keeping a relationship healthy is communication.
When issues arise, it is important that they are addressed head on, with clearly spoken words and a mutual understanding about what is being said. It is important that there is a give and take so that everyone’s needs are met and that both people feel safe and secure in the relationship.
Relationships that end usually involve people who can no longer communicate. They aren’t able to talk about their feelings and they aren’t able to listen to others talk about theirs. They aren’t able to address issues and so they fester.
If you are in a relationship without communication, one where you don’t feel safe sharing how you feel, then it might be time to let go of the relationship and move forward.
2. Are You Getting Mixed Messages?
Is your person alternating hot and cold?
Do some days they seem like their loving self and then on others are they crabby and distant and no fun to be with?
Are they one moment kind and loving and then another dismissive and condescending?
Do they disappear only to reappear with lame excuses?
Is the way they are treating you now very different from the way they treated you in the beginning?
People who are ‘all in’ in a relationship don’t give you mixed messages. Of course, no one is perfect and there will be moments of anger and impatience and harsh words, but people in healthy relationships, in general, treat each other with respect. They are consistent with their feelings and honest about their behaviors.
If your person makes you feel constantly off kilter and anxious, it is definitely a sign that it might be time to let them go.
3. Does History Keeps Repeating Itself?
Are you and your person stuck in a cycle of good and bad, up and down, highs and lows? Are there days when things feel almost like they used to and then days when things are so bad that you want to cry?
Does your person tell you that he needs space and disappear only to reappear a few weeks later telling you how much he misses you?
Do you fight over the same subjects over and over?
Do you live constantly with the hope that things will change but they never do, no matter how hard either one, or both, of you try?
If you find yourself in these kinds of patterns, where things are never constantly good but rather a roller coaster of emotions that is sucking you dry, then it’s time to break up with someone who makes you feel that way and move on.