That may be the way you were raised. It’s likely a long-standing belief ingrained in your habits. It may not be your fault, but you can change.
5. “I have to be in control of everything.”
It takes too long to train someone else. I can do it better myself. It will take less time if I do it. I know it will be done right.
Have you ever said things like this? Then you’re probably a control freak. It’s a major block to get over when you can’t ask for help or, when offered, you refuse to take it.
These thoughts and behaviors can keep you mired in a place that doesn’t allow you to make headway. There are only so many hours in the day, so when you keep doing all the things someone else could help you do, you can’t do more or better.
6. “I’ll get that done later.”
Procrastination can be a major boulder blocking the entrance to your rut. It can stop you from moving up and out because it’s a heavy one to move.
Over-thinking can lead to analysis-paralysis, which can lead to getting nothing done fast. More times than not, you can drag some pretty serious thought patterns into your rut as you try to get out of your own way. Not knowing what to do first can prevent you from doing anything at all.
Be careful. In this state, depression can set in.
7. “I have to keep up with everyone else.”
It’s hard to meet everyone else’s expectation of you when it doesn’t feel like the real you is showing up. Pretending to be someone you’re not just to fit in is exhausting. It also feels inauthentic.
A habit like this creates thought patterns that can make you feel like a fraud. A constant diet of this will leave you struggling to know who you are.
8. “Why am I always so scared?”
Approaching life from a place of fear will defeat you before you start. It can also be used as an excuse to stay stuck right where you are.
Fear will never go away completely because it’s an emotion designed to protect you. How you manage the fear is key to redirecting the feeling that comes up so it can serve to propel you rather than curtail you.
9. “It’s not really my fault, it’s…”
Laying blame, on someone else or some circumstance that happened, as the reason you can’t do what you want/need to do is one of the surest ways to hang out in that rut longer than you should. If it’s not your fault, it’s someone else’s.
If it’s someone else’s, then there’s a good reason to stay stuck where you are. Someone else is holding you back. If this is you, it might be time to take back some control.
10. “I just can’t do this.”
Negative thinking will limit your progress better than almost any other pattern or habit in the book. That boulder blocking the entrance won’t ever move because you don’t believe you can move it.
This “half-empty” view stifles your enthusiasm. It’s difficult to solve problems creatively when you’re not looking for evidence that they can be solved.
11. “I’ll never be able to get out of this.”
You may struggle with just one of these patterns of thinking, or several of them may hold you back.
Regardless if it’s one or more, the fact is feeling stuck by any of them is a mindset. And you can change your mind if you want to.
Consider this: you get to choose your habits and thoughts. They don’t have to choose you unless you let them.
Here is a simple process that may help you change your thoughts and habits so they can serve you better and become the steps for climbing out of your rut:
Identify the habit or pattern of thinking that has you stuck.