How to tackle your life when life puts you through the toughest lows
Time is a big healer, but this can be true only when you make the right use of that time. It is normal to feel disheartened and broken when crisis hits your life. Human beings have innate ability to fight back, to take charge of their lives. One has to get the hold back on their lives deliberately even if they feel low or uninspired. It is important not to get hit by the circumstances and become what the situation wants you to become.
Rather you must get your power back and here is how you can do it:
1. Work out
People tend to eat, sleep or indulge in everything wrong that can put their life out of track when they are depressed. If you are going through a bad time, just get back to your workout routine. Put extra effort and get back your energy and strength. As you toughen yourself, you can gain your power back.
2. Travel or go to a new place
Expose yourself to a new environment away from the place which reminds you of the hurt or the disturbing incidents. When the surroundings change, you get the time and space to heal, to think differently.
3. Change your life
Visit a therapist to get help. You will be able to interpret the happenings of your life differently and understand why things happened the way they happened. There will be seeds of growth hidden in the past which you need to recognize and work on them to bring yourself new opportunities.
4. Include new people
You need positive people who are uncomplicated and can bring positivity to your life. Get rid of toxic people who have wounded you, left you with scars that require so much effort to heal. It is time you want to include the right people in your life who help you feel better and get the best out of your life.
5. Relate your story
You don’t need to be apologetic about what happened to you. Join groups who have gone through similar crisis in life. Share your pain with right people who are kind and considerate and inspire others. They can learn from your life and avoid the mistakes you made.
6. Try to look different
This is not about not liking the way you looked or appeared in the past. It is about bringing a change to your appearance to freshen your mind and spirit. When you do this, you are not trying to copy or look like someone else, but groom yourself better the way you want.
7. Eliminate things that don’t work
When you are forced to start your life once again, it brings you the opportunity to get rid of toxic relationships, bad jobs, wrong work environment and bad living surroundings. When your life is in ruin, you have nothing to risk to introduce changes. However, you need to be wise and intelligent while selecting these changes.
8. Allow yourself to let go
This is the most important thing, if you really want to start afresh. Things that have happened in the past cannot be undone but clinging to the loss can make your life even more miserable.
9. Take good care of your health
Being emotionally down or distressed is somewhat similar to being sick. You need as much care to recover as you do when you are physically sick. Take rest, hydrate yourself and if needed take medicines. This will help you to get back on your feet faster and less painfully.
10. Go through your life events
Your past is nothing more than a story. When you let yourself to understand this, you feel light and liberated. Take the help of narrative therapist with whom you can sit down and re-frame the happenings of your life or write them down until you can figure out what led to your present situation. Identify the little opportunities that had been there even amid the series of events that led to the bad phase. Move ahead with the lesson to make use of little positive opportunity that comes your way in the future.