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9 Tips to Help Introverted Children Thrive In An Extroverted World

Tips to Help Introverted Children Thrive

Introverted children are unique, but sometimes they have a hard time dealing with everything that goes on around them, especially in school. With stereotypes constantly plaguing them, they find it challenging to navigate their way through the different aspects of school life.

Introverted children have a lot to offer the world. Often creative, passionate, and deep-thinking, introverted children bring a different type of energy and social dynamic to home and school. Frequently mischaracterized as shy, they interact with the world in a reserved and careful manner.

For our introverts, this can sometimes lead to social difficulties in schools that often cater to the more extroverted child. Understanding how to help the introvert begins with a deeper understanding of what introversion means.

Extroverted children differ from their introverted counterparts in everything from their energy patterns to communication styles to learning preferences. Extroverts often rely on active dopamine-based energy patterns, communication that is active and chatty, and learning that is action-oriented.

Introverts, on the other hand, approach everything from a more reserved energy pattern. They renew through solitude, prefer to think first and speak second and learn best through contemplation and watching4. These differences often lead to some struggles for our introverted children as they enter the extrovert-dominate social environments of school and work.

Fortunately, there are specific things parents can do to help quiet children build on the strengths of their temperament. The nine tips focused on preschool and elementary age children provide parents with everything needed to help introverted children embrace their many gifts and thrive.

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9 Tips to Help Introverted Children Thrive In An Extroverted World

Preschool (age 3-5)

Preschool is typically the time when children begin to develop fundamental social skills by engaging in cooperative play and learning the skills of taking turns, listening to each other, initiating play, and expressing emotions in positive ways. Introverts may struggle with many aspects of the above skills.

While they typically excel in listening, taking turns, and problem-solving skills, they may struggle with expressing emotions, initiating interactions with others, and engaging in cooperative play.

The following tips focus on a few specific things parents can do to help introverted children nurture their social skills:

1. Teach children how to talk about their emotions.

Make “emotion” cards with your child and use them to assist your child in describing their feelings at the end of the day.

2. Encourage your introverted child to develop 1 or 2 close friendships.

If your child is struggling with that, allow them to develop social skills through his or her imaginative play. Listen to the stories they create and compliment the appropriate behavior (“I like the way you asked the bear to come and have tea”). Your children will begin to translate these skills to other children as they mature.

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Christine Fonseca

Christine Fonseca is a licensed educational psychologist, critically acclaimed author, and a nationally recognized speaker on topics related to educational psychology, mental health, giftedness, and using storytelling to heal past wounds. Using her experience consulting and coaching educators and parents, Christine brings her expertise to Psychology Today, authoring the parenting blog Parenting for A New Generation. She has written self-help articles for, Johnson & Johnson, Quiet Revolution, and Justine Magazine. Christine’s critically acclaimed titles include Emotional Intensity in Gifted Students, The Caring Child, Letting Go: A Girl’s Guide to Breaking Free of Stress and Anxiety, and the action-packed Young Adult series, the Solomon Experiments. Christine lives in Southern California with her husband and children.View Author posts