Why An INFJ Removes People From Their Lives With The Unpopular “Door Slam”

INFJ Removes People Door Slam

INFJs are some of the most intriguing, amazing, and intuitive people out there, and knowing them will always be one of the most interesting and deep things you will ever experience in life. Now, when it comes to an INFJ, you must surely have heard of their infamous Door Slam. But, what exactly is it?

Who is an INFJ?

INFJ is a personality type that is characterized by the Myers Briggs Personality archetypes. It is extremely rare and comprises 1% of the entire population. The initials stand for the following: introverted, intuitive, feeling, and judgment.

If you have been the “odd one” from a young age, you probably belong to this rare personality type. You have always felt different from the people around you. You might have plenty of friends, but you never felt like you truly fit in. there were times you faked being more like them so they would accept you.

Getting to know the real you in surely a Herculean task since you can be both incredibly shy, quiet, and withdrawn, as well as charming, fun, and hilarious. It depends on the mood and the situation, most of all the kind of people you are with.

Related: INFJ – The Worlds Rarest Personality Type. Signs You Are One Of Them.

What is The Door Slam?

INFJ Door Slam
INFJ Door Slam

The door slam is when an INFJ suddenly cuts off all contact with someone. It might be a close friend, partner, coworker, or family member.

INFJs are the typical “all or nothing” kind of people. So if they are treated terribly for a long time, they will tolerate it for a while before severing all ties. They will block all numbers, social media links, not cross the same path and in extreme cases, move without a definite address. Removing someone from their life is a self-protective measure to stop the emotional pain.

Why An INFJ Removes People from their Lives with the Unpopular “Door Slam”

INFJs are good with people and are known for their characteristic feature of tolerance.

Some people go on giving chances to those who let them down, INFJs belongs to that rare category. They are genuinely compassionate, empathetic, and forgiving souls. They believe in the iconic dialogue “Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things; and no good thing ever dies.”

Some of them may also hope that the slamming of the door will result in a magical realization in the other person and they would value the former. INFJs do not revel in drama or ending on a bitter note. The door slam is the last straw, a final chance for the other person to understand and notice.

INFJs can foresee the loss of connection with a person and it makes them mournful.

Often we cherish the idea of a person, build castles in the air without seeing things as they are. Then in a moment of epiphany, it dawns upon us that what we had actually did not exist. It is a common thing with introverts — it means that they internally process much of what goes on around them. They do not react or let loose.

If you pay attention, you will be able to see the red flags which INFJs show before the door slam. They make it obvious that they are not happy with a kind of behavior or find a certain action unacceptable. The fallout is a result of prolonged internal mourning because they realize the other person involved is not willing to change one bit.

INFJs don’t give up easily but once they are done, they are done.

Related: The Elusive INFJ

3 thoughts on “Why An INFJ Removes People From Their Lives With The Unpopular “Door Slam””

  1. Avatar of Jarinporn Snitwong na Ayuthaya
    Jarinporn Snitwong na Ayuthaya

    Thanks for the information. This clearly explains what I have been wondering for so long.

  2. Avatar of Lisa Ramirez

    This just described a breakup I (ENTP) had with an INTJ. I didn’t understand why she proactively cut me off completely. I felt like I was proactively treated like a stalker with social media ties blocked and nothing responded to. So far beyond what a romantic breakup would normally entail. I found it so emotional devastating. It felt cruel and abusive. This helps me to understand it even if I still find it unacceptably insensitive.

  3. Avatar of Krista L Martinez
    Krista L Martinez

    This entire article just described me to a tee! How interesting! Thank you for researching and then writing about this topic.
    Best Wishes,

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