When it comes to the emotion of love, it is not always as simple as it seems. Yes, love makes life better. Love makes life worth living, but not everyone has the capacity of loving other people. The sad part is that this happens more often than you would like to admit. People who are incapable of loving someone, are actually people who don’t love themselves, and unless you love yourself, how can you love someone else?
Do you know what the worst part of all this is? Sometimes, you end up falling in love with someone, but because they are incapable of loving someone else, you don’t get your feelings reciprocated. And most of the time, this leads to a broken heart, and chances are it will be yours.
Here Are 8 Signs That Show When A Person Is Incapable Of Love
1. They always criticize others.
All those people who find it difficult to love someone else, display a habit of excessive criticism towards other people. They never consider the fact that they might be a part of the problem, and instead always hold others responsible for all the bad things that happen. Extremely close-minded, they live under the illusion that they are perfect and they can never be wrong.
And even if they do realize that they might be the culprit, they will either feign ignorance or they will continue to dump their harsh opinions on the people they know for a fact will stand by them, no matter what.
2. They are pioneers when it comes to excuses.
Another major sign that someone is incapable of loving someone else, is that they are experts when it comes to making excuses. If they do anything bad that might hurt you or offend you, instead of apologizing for it, they will hide behind a barrage of excuses. They will justify why they did what they did, and will always expect you to understand where they were coming from. How you feel never matters, but how they feel is always the most important thing.
They will never acknowledge their flaws or their negative attitude, and will always make you seem like the reason for their bad behavior. It is always you or others in the wrong, never them.
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3. They hate communication.
Because they are exceptionally narrow-minded and do not have the capability to love, they fail miserably when it comes to the art of communication. Even if something is bothering them, and they know that others are willing to help them deal with it, they would rather let those feelings fester in them than talk about them. They will keep on bottling their negative feelings up and will let all of that negativity control them all the time.
Sometimes, they will expect other people to understand everything on their own and support them. And in case others fail to do that, they will blame them and shame them for not loving them enough. It’s like, you can never do anything right, and no matter how hard you try to be there for them, it’s always a lose-lose situation for you.
4. They are unhappy people at their core.
Probably one of the biggest reasons why some people are incapable of loving others is because they are unhappy from the inside. Unless you are happy about who you are and how you are, you can never be happy with someone else. You need to be okay with who you are as a person, and you need to be okay with yourself. Nobody can make you happy unless you do it yourself.
If you don’t love yourself first, how can you expect to love someone else? Self-love and self-happiness are crucial when it comes to love and healthy relationships. And people who are unhappy from the inside will always be incapable of love.