If You Don’t Feel These 12 Things with Your Partner, It Isn’t Real, True Love

 February 19, 2018

If You Don’t Feel These 12 Things with Your Partner, It Isn’t Real, True Love

 

8. Embracing Illness

Everyone gets sick, but that’s not a bad thing. Sickness can be our greatest teacher, our greatest guide. I got depressed. My wife got breast cancer. We both developed heart arrhythmias. We learned the lessons of illness and healed.

 

9. Learning the mathematics of true love and addictive love

When we look for a partner to make us whole, we experience addictive love: “I’ve got to have him/her or I’ll die.” The math is ½ x ½ = ¼. The longer we’re together the smaller we become. When we look to our partner to help us heal and grow, we are on the path of true love. The math is 1 + 1 = Infinity.

 

10. Turning back towards our lover and committing to being real

Being real is not sweetness and light. It is passionate, painful, and creative. Much like making a baby and giving birth. Being real requires being part of a pair. Self-actualization is not something we do by ourselves.

 

11. Love is letting go of fear

All our unhappiness and illnesses are fear based. We’re afraid of losing what we have or not getting what we need. We always have two choices. Do we feed the fear or do we feed the love? Whichever one we feed gets stronger.

 

12.  Accepting that real, lasting love is a journey, not a destination

Real, lasting love is something we create every minute of every day. It’s the most difficult thing we do in our lives. It is also the simplest. But simple isn’t always easy. Learning to love is the graduate school of life. Admission is free but will cost you everything you have. Are you ready for the journey?

I’ll look forward to your comments. If this resonates with you, please share. If you’d like to learn more, contact me at www.MenAlive.com

Originally posted on www.MenAlive.com.

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If You Don’t Feel These 12 Things with Your Partner, It Isn’t Real, True Love

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