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When You Meet The One You Are Meant To Be With, This Is How You’ll Know

When You Meet The One You Are Meant To Be With, This Is How You’ll Know

 

I read it somewhere that if you meet a man who makes your heart beat faster and you feel giddy and excited when you hold his hand, be sure to know that he isn’t the one. If you hold a man’s hand and he makes you feel safe and secure, hold on to him. I know the internet is full of these rather absurd articles and videos that help you find out if “the person you are dating is the one for you”.

 

But that’s just not possible. When you find the one who’s meant to be with you, you’ll know. And the best part about finding these people is that there is no fixed time for their arrival. They don’t come after an alarm. You’ll meet them only at the time that destiny has decided for you. They will find you at your lowest and help you turn your life into a beautiful piece of art. They will love you for all your dark truths and never make you feel bad for where you come from.

Most importantly, they will help you grow. 

They will just enter your life in a minor situation. Maybe through a friend or a meeting or any other way and they will become a huge part of your life. Now just to let you know, wind won’t blow when you meet them and neither will the moon become big. However, when you do meet them first, your heart will feel the sort of peace it had never felt before.

 

When you find someone who is meant for you, you’ll know because they will love all the broken things about you and make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else. 

Falling for them won’t feel like falling at all. It’s going to feel like as if you walked into the arms of a person and suddenly feel that you’re home.

 

The sad part is, in spite of feeling the spark you will hold back due to all the heartbreaks you have experienced in the past. And it’s only valid for you to over-think because you don’t want to feel that sort of pain again. But trust me, if they are for you, there is nothing that can keep you two apart. Just don’t silence your intuitions. That’s the worst thing to you can do to yourself.  Don’t rush it. Calm down and give it time. It’s only understandable if they two have faced betrayals before they found you. The thing about us humans is that we always think that our pain is exclusive when in reality it isn’t. So meet them halfway and have the courage to feel again.

The right person will silence your demons and will stick through thick and thin. 

They will not judge you for being vulnerable. Everything that you hated about yourself is what they will treasure about you. They will be more than a relationship. They’ll be your lifestyle. The first person you go to when something good happens. They’ll be the one you run to when the world around you is trying to deprive you of your energy. Everything you ever lost will come back to you in the form of them.  It’s not necessary that they will be around you all the time. But even in their absence, you will still feel their presence and aura around yourself. They’ll fill you with the sort of love you’d been craving for all along and you’ll have a little part of them in you. That’s what true love does.

You might not have come across your ‘person’ but when the right time comes, you will.

So please know that everyone in this world is blessed with love.  It’s a big world and it’s never going to be too late to love. So believe in the universe and let love find you.

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How To Win Your Ex Back For Good (Using Reverse Psychology)

How To Use Reverse Psychology To Win Your Ex Back For Good

 

Everyone knows that reverse psychology essentially involves trying to get someone to do something by suggesting they do the opposite.

For example, if I was to ask you to stop reading this article right now and not another sentence …what would you do?

Most likely you would continue to read down to this next paragraph. Yay! So reverse psychology works. And when it comes to making your ex want you back, reverse psychology is a very effective tool.

In my book, “The Lovemap Code: How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You Using Psychology,” I reveal the psychology of how to program someone to fall in love with you. I also show how to implement this process in a situation where you are trying to get an ex back after a breakup. And one of the key ways I show how to do this is with the use of reverse psychology.

In psychology, Reactance Theory states that when a person feels their sense of control is being taken away, the person will immediately try to regain that control by doing the opposite of what they are asked.

The person’s subconscious sees that something important to them (i.e. control) is being taken away, and so it looks for a way to stop this. By doing the exact opposite of what the person is being asked to do, the subconscious reasons that the person can regain control. And so the thing that is important to the person (i.e. control) is maintained.

The interesting thing about this is that when you understand how reverse psychology works in a person mind, you can use it to even get a person to do something: Which they don’t actually want to do and which can even be against their best interest.

If a girl in a gang of girls is told by one of the groups that she’s not brave enough to shoplift, it often happens that the girl will do just that as proof that she had the guts to do it. And this happens even if she had no need to shoplift and was really worried about getting caught. Essentially someone has got them to do something they didn’t want to do. And this is exactly what you are trying to achieve in trying to get your ex back who may currently be showing no signs of wanting to get back with you.

 

As we can see, reverse psychology is all about control. It’s tied very much to a person’s ego. If you can communicate to a person’s subconscious that their control is being taken away…their subconscious will look for ways to prevent this from happening.

In “The Lovemap Code,” one way I show how to do this in getting an ex back is by communicating to your ex that people who were against the relationship (and ideally people who your ex-doesn’t like—such as frenemies) seemed happy about the breakup.

Now, while reverse psychology can be a very effective tool at making an ex-want you back, reverse psychology also comes with a risk.

Reverse psychology is in effect a form of manipulation. And manipulation (and manipulative people) are not attractive. So you need to be careful.
When using this tactic, you should be trying to communicate the point to the person’s subconscious mind …rather than their conscious mind. If you communicate the point directly to a person’s conscious mind that someone is happy about the breakup, the person’s conscious minds triggers will be set off and they will see that you are just trying to manipulate them. And this will make what you are trying to do completely ineffective. So, how can you communicate the point to the person’s subconscious mind rather than their conscious mind?

 

Create A Diversion

An effective way to communicate to a person’s subconscious mind rather than their conscious mind is to create a diversion. For example, you might say to your ex that you told someone (a person who you know is your exes frenemy for example) about the breakup and the frenemy smiled about it. You then create a diversion by saying you really don’t like that person now and go into talking about negative qualities that person has.

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If You Don’t Feel These 12 Things with Your Partner, It Isn’t Real, True Love

If You Don’t Feel These 12 Things with Your Partner, It Isn’t Real, True Love

In our topsy-turvy, stressed-out world, love may be the only thing we can count on.

Looking for that special someone has become a priority for many. Google shows over 300 million results for the search “online dating sites.” There are more than 40 million American singles heading online to find love.

It may not be easy, but most people are now able to find someone to love. But not everyone knows how to keep love alive and growing through the years. I’ve been a marriage and family counselor for more than 40 years. I’ve also been happily married for 35 years.

Here are some things my wife, Carlin, and I have felt on our journey together:

 

1. Romantic love

We all know the feeling. We meet, we connect, we fall in love. When we’re in it our world is turned upside down. We’d rather be with our beloved than eat, sleep or work. We feel on top of the world when our love is returned and crash to the depths if it looks like our love is threatened.

 

2. The desire to merge

Lust is connected with romance. We want to merge our bodies, minds, and spirits. Orgasmic intensity isn’t just about pleasure. It’s about wanting to share our hearts, souls, atoms, and electrons. We want to lose ourselves and find the divine.
We no longer feel alone. We are now part of a pair. We feel the power of two and joy of being us. We’re still in the world, but the world seems like the background. We two are the center and the world is there to support and embrace us.

 

3. It’s us against the world

We no longer feel alone. We are now part of a pair. We feel the power of two and joy of being us. We’re still in the world, but the world seems like the background. We two are the center and the world is there to support and embrace us.

 

4. Longing to create

The primal creation, the reason we are each here, is that a man and a woman came together and an intrepid sperm was welcomed by wondrous egg and we were launched into life. But in a world with too many people, we also create art, music, home, healing, and other gifts for humankind.

 

5. Disillusionment

The honeymoon time comes to an end. Disillusionment sets in. Our partner seems to change. They are not who we thought they were and they aren’t giving us what we longed to have. We wonder if we’ve made a mistake and begin turning away and looking for what is missing.

 

6. Incompatibility

Incompatibility is grounds for true love. When we become disillusioned with our partner, we often feel we’ve become incompatible. But when we recognize that disillusionment can mean letting go of illusions, we can also let go of believing that incompatibility is a bad thing. It actually allows us to learn where our wounds have been hiding.

 

7. Discovering our wounded selves

In looking away from our partner, we are forced to look within. We feel the pain of the trauma we all experience growing up in families that didn’t adequately meet our needs. We recognize that we were hoping that our partner would make us whole. We were looking for love in all the wrong places.

 

8. Embracing Illness

Everyone gets sick, but that’s not a bad thing. Sickness can be our greatest teacher, our greatest guide. I got depressed. My wife got breast cancer. We both developed heart arrhythmias. We learned the lessons of illness and healed.

 

9. Learning the mathematics of true love and addictive love

When we look for a partner to make us whole, we experience addictive love: “I’ve got to have him/her or I’ll die.” The math is ½ x ½ = ¼. The longer we’re together the smaller we become. When we look to our partner to help us heal and grow, we are on the path of true love. The math is 1 + 1 = Infinity.

 

10. Turning back towards our lover and committing to being real

Being real is not sweetness and light. It is passionate, painful, and creative. Much like making a baby and giving birth. Being real requires being part of a pair. Self-actualization is not something we do by ourselves.

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5 Things You Should Always Keep Hidden About Your Relationship

5 Things You Should Always Keep Hidden About Your Relationship

There is a thin line that separates privacy from secrecy.

It is essential to maintain it while you are officially in a relationship with someone. At this age, all of us are rather too excited to spill out all our secrets either out of excessive excitement or habit. However, these little things have a huge impact on your relationship. It is indeed very normal to discuss a couple of fights here and there with your BFF but you need to understand the limit to which you can talk about your relationship to other. After all, relationships comprise of two people. Anyone added to these two will make your relationship a public affair which is likely to create tons of misunderstandings. And as far as I know, none of us want our relationship to become a topic of discussion at someone’s dinner table or social gathering.

 

1- Anything Related To Your sex Life.

If it isn’t your gynaecologist or a relationship counselor, there is no reason why you should be discussing your sex life with a third party. Matters like sex and intimacy should be solely kept private under all circumstances. It doesn’t matter how big or small the info is; it is never right to discuss it with anyone other than your partner. Your bedroom fantasies, problems and everything related to it should be kept only within those four walls and the two people involved in it. Letting out such info, even in anger or heat of the moment is likely to cause huge issues in future. We all can well imagine what even a best friend becomes after a fight. So, keep it exclusively to yourself.

 

2- Their Flaws

Nobody is perfect. Well, nobody needs to be perfect. And that is what makes us all human. But here is the thing, if a person is vulnerable enough to be their true real self in front of you, make sure you respect that. Yes; I totally understand. There are over 3000 neurons in our body and sometimes the one we love manage to get on each and every single one of them. But then again, it is never right to discuss their weaknesses in front of others. Each of us comes with our own set of demons. And that what you do when you’re in love with someone. You calm their demons down instead of making a public display of them. Your partner is likely to become very careful when they are around you, once they find out that you discuss their conduct in front of others. And that’s the last thing you’d want your lover to feel.

 

3- Your Fights

Stay low-key about your relationship. There is no point in making it an open book. Yes; if the matters are as serious as mental or physical abuse then don’t hesitate to discuss it with people who can clear your clouded mind and help you make better decisions. But don’t go running to your boy/girl gang after every fight. There is no rainbow without a little rain. Similarly, no relationship exists without fights. Also, no relationship can survive if everything about it is kept out in the open. There are always two sides of a story- your side, your partner’s side and the reality. When you discuss the fights with your friends, it is normal human nature that we only talk about the part where others go wrong. And for your friends, that becomes the reality. You actually end up de-framing your partner when you discuss petty issues in front of your friends.

 

4- Financial Issues

Ok. Let us face it. We’ve all been in relationships and faced money issues. And it’s ok. But what is not fine is you discussing these financial issues with other people and not your partner. This just proves that both of you aren’t close enough to deal such serious matters by yourselves. And honestly, what is the point of being in a relationship when you can’t even be open to them about such things. Low on cash? Feel like they aren’t splitting the bill and the entire burden is coming on you? TELL THEM.

 

5- Matters Of Trust

A relationship is built on the foundation of trust. Without it, it’s hollow from within. Once trust is broken, it can never be the same again, no matter how hard you try to rebuild it. You spilling out topics that you are trusted with is like you breaking someone’s trust. Never do that to someone you claim to love. This will push them away from you and they shall no longer trust you with themselves. From the next time, they shall think twice before opening up to you. There is a reason why they trusted you with something they felt was important to be told. Don’t just hand it over to other people carelessly.

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8 Things To Do To Keep Your Man

8 Things To Do To Keep Your Man

 

“You are the light in a dark place. You are the water to my drought. You are everything I never knew existed and everything I wanted all at the same time.” ― Shelly Crane, Catalyst.

A lot of relationships start like fairy-tales in the beginning but become sour with time. It’s not always because the guy is cheating; often, knowingly or unknowingly, we ourselves make it complicated. So if you are lucky girl who has found her Mr. Right and wants to keep him, we have some tips for you:

(1) Be honest and trust him:

Honesty is the key to every successful relationship. Be honest with him; tell him if you made a mistake. What a man wants in his woman is honesty. Also, trust him and make him feel that vibe. It will help you strengthen your bond.

 

(2) Be supportive:

Give him your support. Let him know that you are there even if the world goes against him. Usually men don’t open up like women but by appreciating things he’s doing or new things he wants to do, you are sending the vibe that you are there for him.

 

(3) Stay calm:

Men usually want to stay away from impulsive reactions. They enjoy peace in their lives. So, try to keep your calm. Control your hyper-activity. Don’t let those emotional outbursts ruin the relationship. Breathing exercises or yoga are helpful.

 

(4) Make him your priority:

You might have a wonderful career or a very busy social life but don’t fail to make him your priority. Every man wants that. Even you would want to have the same in your life. The more you give him importance, the more he will appreciate you.

 

(5) Be affectionate and caring:

Care and affection is something we all crave for in a relationship. Men appreciate caring partners. They like it when their women don’t feel ashamed of showing their care and concern.

 

(6) Use sex for romance, not for battering:

sex is for heating up the romance; don’t use it for making him do things he wasn’t willing to do. Men don’t like getting battered.

 

(7) Be smart and humorous:

While looks are important, men also want their women to be smart and witty. Show your intelligence often. Use your wits to spark a laughter. This will make your relationship interesting.

 

(8) Love yourself and be self-confident:

Until and unless you don’t respect yourself, nobody is going to respect you. If you are confident of yourself, your man will give you that respect. Don’t seek validation from him. He’s not there to boost your self-confidence.

 

(9) Always be kind:

A kind woman always attracts a man. Showing kindness not on just him but rather on everybody will make him feel proud to be your man.

 

(10) Keep the romance alive:

Always keep the romance alive in the relationship. Give him a kiss while he’s working in the room or steal a kiss from him; surprise him with handmade stationary items or cards or home-cooked food. Flirt with him. Such romantic gestures will draw him closer to you.

 

(11) Keep your secrets to yourself:

Don’t share your secrets with your girlfriends. If he comes to know, he will feel uncomfortable. You might not like certain things but discuss them with him, don’t share them with others. He will love and respect you for that.

Give him all the love and he will remain true to you always!

 

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This Is What Being Faithful Means Because It’s More Than Not Sleeping Around

This Is What Being Faithful Means Because It’s More Than Not Sleeping Around

Being faithful means more than keeping your hands to yourself.

It means more than only sleeping with one person, only kissing one person, only being physically involved with one person.

Being faithful means that you delete your Tinder and any other dating apps on your phone, because you don’t need them anymore.

Because you don’t need more booty calls or backup plans. Because you’re happy with the person that you’re dating and would never dream of cheating on them.

 

Being faithful means putting an end to any flirting that becomes too intense.

It means telling the girl hitting on you at the bar that you’re in a relationship. It means making it clear that you aren’t interested in her instead of leading her on and enjoying the fact that someone other than your partner is attracted to you. 

 

Being faithful means keeping your wedding ring on or keeping your relationship status public.

So everyone knows you’re taken, instead of purposely trying to make other people think that you’re single so that they treat you differently. So that you still get checked out and receive miniature confidence boosts.

 

Being faithful means being honest with your person about the fact that you ran into your ex during your lunch break or that some girl at the bar asked you for your number.

It means being open, even when the truth makes you uncomfortable, because you believe that your person deserves to know what really happened. 

 

Being faithful means knowing what your person is not okay with.

What they would consider being disloyal, and never crossing that line.

You are allowed to text someone else. You are allowed to like someone else’s picture on Instagram. You are allowed to have friends of every gender.

But if you start hiding texts from your person, because you know that they would get upset if they found out about what you’ve been saying to some other girl — if you leave several inappropriate, sexual comments underneath another girl’s picture — if you treat your female friend exactly the same as your girlfriend, then something is seriously wrong.

Maybe you’re not technically cheating, but you’re coming close enough. Close enough for your girlfriend to worry. Close enough to hurt the person who loves you more than anything.

Remember, being faithful means more than never letting another person into your bed. It means never letting another person in your heart.

 

Being faithful means deciding that your love for this one person outweighs your desire to be with any other person on the planet.

It means that you’ve decided you’ve found the person you’re meant to spend the rest of your life with and you aren’t going to do anything to mess it up.

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If He Says These 13 Things, Your Guy Is A Total Keeper

If He Says These 13 Things, Your Guy Is A Total Keeper

His words tell you a lot about who he is. Hold on tight cause this one’s your forever man!

You’ve dated for months or maybe longer. Your new man seems like a perfect match for you.

But how can you know for sure? You don’t want to waste your time with the wrong guy, and lately, your radar has been off.

Perhaps he’s the quiet type. It appears that he cares for you based on his actions. Still, what he says matters and every word is like a breadcrumb leading to the big prize: you!

Listen up! Here is how to know if he’s the one. If he says these 13 things, your man is a total keeper:

 

1. “You are beautiful —  inside and out.”

My boyfriend said this to me early on in our relationship and my heart melted. Let the other guys go solely for looks; your guy appreciates everything about you.

 

2. “I love your smile.”

This is the man who will want to spend his entire life trying to make you smile over and over again.

 

3. “Here’s my take.”

If your man is willing to give you his honest perspective on a tricky situation, or the new dress you bought, you want to hear it (well, mostly). He cares that much.

And, he doesn’t expect you to fall in line. He knows you have your own fantastic mind and you are the one best equipped to know what’s right for you.

 

4. “What do you think?”

Your beau asks your opinion because it matters to him. You matter to him.

This inquiry shows that he respects you. If he asks this question for the little things that come up, he will ask it for the bigger ones that will arise later on, too. He considers you his partner.

 

5. “I support you.”

He is not you, and he is not going to always agree with your course of action. At the same time, if he can stand by you and your decisions, you’ve got one awesome guy.

 

6. “I’m sorry.”

It takes a genuinely humble man to admit his mistakes. If it’s clear that he’s learned from the experience, snatch him up for good!

You want someone who isn’t going to cover up his flaws; someone comfortable in his skin, willing to grow, and become a better person.

 

7. “You look hot!”

Even though you need to know he loves you for your personality, compliments like these will keep your relationship exciting. Face it; you want to feel desired and gorgeous. Bonus points if he says this when you’re in your pajamas, looking disheveled!

 

8. “You’ve got this!”

Whether it’s a big presentation at work or a stressful conversation you’re anticipating with a family member, your man knows you are a confident and capable woman. He sees it and so should you. He’s your biggest cheerleader.

Your brilliant guy knows that both pushing and encouraging you will help you realize your hopes and dreams. And when you do, he’ll be right there celebrating with you.

 

9. “I’ve got this.”

When you’re sick in bed with a fever, or you’re up to your neck in deadlines, laundry, or child rearing, he tells you not to worry about a thing.

An extraordinary man will prioritize your self-care over his. He’s not concerned about a shopping list the length of his arm or even mopping up your vomit.

He’s lessening your burdens and you are the luckiest girl around.

 

10. “You’re hilarious.”

Your boyfriend prioritizes fun. Secondly, he thinks you bring it to him.

Laughter is a great stress reliever, also. Couples who laugh together, stay together. And who doesn’t want a lifetime of lightness and joy?

 

11. “I trust you.”

Trust is a massive deal to guys. If your man can be vulnerable with you and confide his deepest desires and secrets, you’re set to build an unbreakable bond. What you’ll get with this guy is a heart connection.

 

12. “I love you.”

It may go without saying that he should tell you this. Even so, declaring those three little words makes a difference to you.

He doesn’t have to say it every day. But he does have to say it when it counts — and with ease.

 

13. “I know.”

With this statement, he is acknowledging your feelings. He gets you like no other, and he’s there for you with a compassion you’ve never experienced before.

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16 Strong Signs That Show There’s Perfect Chemistry Between Two People

16 Strong Signs That Show There's Perfect Chemistry Between Two People

 

“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.” ― C.G. Jung.

When just being with this person in the same room gives you the feels.. when their presence is reason enough to make you high.

We call it ‘a perfect Chemistry’ when two people feel attracted to each other, with no such reason at all. When they experience changes in hormones and their neurotransmitters are triggered, just by the mere presence of the other.

What message does your body want to say to you? It’s too soon to be love, but yes its the first step to compatibility. Signs and signals of a love story, waiting to happen.

 

We may not be scientists, but lucky for you, we are quite the experts in chemistry – we can help you decipher if all the signs are indeed real or just imagined! 

To begin with one must know chemistry is only the first step towards compatibility. It means that both people have manifested their interest in the other in an understandable way.

These are strong signs that show there’s a strong chemistry between two people. It can be anything from certain feelings when together to shared traits between two people. If you two can feel this together and can relate to most of the traits below, you can be sure you do have a Strong Chemistry Brewing 

(1)The Magical Touch

A feel a rush, whenever that someone touches you, even in the harmless of spots. And your body starts craving for more and more of it.

 

(2)The Feeling Of Forever

The feeling of forever when your eyes lock, you two could stare at each other for as long as forever without even feeling weird or conscious. 

(3)Shared Privacy in a Crowd

When even in a crowded room, you feel a level of privacy between you two. When you can do an entire conversations, with a wink, constant texts, when your eyes constantly fall on each other during conversations. 

 

(4)Obvious Behaviors :It shows in your actions

Whether its official or not. Whether you haven’t even started dating, when you two are together, the way you behave and are comfortable with each other, people around assume that you two are a couple.

 

(5)  They share common interests:

Opposites attract. This is the first step of bonding but the main base of bonding happens when two people have common interests they can talk about or do together. This also establishes that they will enjoy each other’s company always like reading their favourite book together or doing a sport together.

 

 

 

(6)  They respect each other:

Respect goes hand in hand with love. If the two individuals have respect for one another, then it signifies the development of a strong bond.

 

 

 

(7)  They understand sarcasm:

Sarcasm keeps the spark in the relationship glowing. No matter how different one is, if they two people can understand and enjoy the sarcasm, they can very well get along with each other without misunderstanding.

 

(8)  They know the little details of one another:

Knowing little details of each other, like her favourite nail paint or his favourite cereal indicates that the two people are developing a good chemistry. These things are often missed out by others and only the loved one can actually notice them.

 

(9) They know what makes the other one laugh:

Staying happy in the relationship is the most important thing everyone wants. If two people know what makes the other person laugh, that means they have paid close attention and can bring smile on their face even on days of gloom. Only loved ones can do this.

 

(10) They understand each other’s silence:

Keating expressed this one right: ‘ You say it best when you say nothing at all.’ When silence also becomes a mode of communication between two people, it’s a positive sign that they are developing a good chemistry.

 

(11)  There is equal contribution:

Equal contribution signifies both the people are reciprocating one another in terms of time, energy and other resources and there’s no space to doubt their intentions.

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7 Things You Definitely Need To Know About Someone Before You Say, “I love you.”

7 Things You Definitely Need To Know About Someone Before You Say, "I love you."

 

Love is blind and accept it or not, we often fall in love without knowing the real version of the person. It is definitely true that it’s not easy to know everything about a person in a short span of time, but before jumping into saying the three magical words, ‘I love you,’ one should really give it a thought. The moment you say ‘I love you,’ you are committing not just emotionally but also in other aspects of life.

As the saying goes, slow but steady wins the race!

You might really love the person for their looks, their qualities but how much do you know them as a person?

There are a few questions answering which will make you understand certain integral aspects of a person and help you decide whether that person is really the one you should be saying this magical phrase to!

(1) Do they have any other person in their lives?

Your love interest might be single but they might be still in love with their ex or they have crush on someone or they have someone who is more than just a friend to them. If any one of these is affirmative, then it’s better to give it sometime and watch or quit.

 

(2) Are they really willing to hear the words from you?

Sometimes people who go out for dates are not interested in long-term relationships no matter how much their partner loves them. If your romantic interest is not prepared to have a relationship with you, then there’s no point in wasting time behind them.

 

(3) What makes them laugh?

The secret to a long-lasting relationship is enjoying each other’s company. And laughing is the best expression for it. If you see your romantic interest laughing a lot when they are with you and vice versa, then it’s a good sign. Else, you really need to put in some effort here.

 

(4) What are their insecurities?

A relationship is not a bed of rose petals; thorns are there too. Loving someone doesn’t mean appreciating the good qualities of that person; it also means accepting their flaws. Once a person reveals their insecurities to you and you accept them, it means they are really comfortable in your company and you are comfortable with their flaws. If this doesn’t happen, it’s better you take time because there might be some flaws you might not accept.

 

(5) What is the status of your relationship with yourself?

Hard as it sounds, this is one critical question. Before committing to another person, it’s important we know ourselves well. Until and unless you are happy with yourself, you are confident about yourself, you can never give your cent percent to the relationship.

 

(6) Are they emotionally available to reciprocate your love?

Your love interest might have physical relationship with you but a long-term relationship needs emotional bonding too. You need to figure out if they are emotionally available or not; reciprocating emotionally and understanding the emotional needs of one another is essential for a relationship.

 

(7) What’s your position in their priority list?

We only reciprocate the love when we value the other person. So, you should know your position in their list. If you fall in the top category of their priority list, then only you should think of telling them.

Understand yourself and the other person before rushing into commitment and you won’t hurt yourself in the process.

 

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Failed Relationships Come Down To One Basic Trait: According To Studies

Failed Relationships Come Down To One Basic Trait: According To Studies

We always expect our partners to just “know” what we want from them. That’s how we know they love us, right?

Wrong.

That is actually where most relationships go wrong, ironically. Thanks to unrealistic expectations that popular culture has created over the years, the idea of love and the perfect understanding partner is somewhat distorted in our minds.

Psychologists have been trying to de-mystify the reasons behind failed relationships for ages, or so it seems but are no closer to finding an answer. But in a rather interesting article by psychologist Katherine Schafler published in the Business Insider, she conjectures that

the root of most broken relationships is simply an inability to communicate through the “language of love”.

 

The language of love isn’t a specific language per se, not a tongue we speak in with our friends, family or colleagues. It is instead, an expression of love and intimacy and how we communicate those feelings with the people we love. It is a pity however that we have a tendency to take people’s emotions for granted, which creates a barrier in communication and give and take of intimate true love.

We might “expect” our partner to know what we like, and “expect” them to pleasantly surprise us by bringing us a gift or a token of their love, let’s say flowers or chocolates, but that is a lot of expectations we’re having in our mind. Failure of fulfillment of such expectations can result in resentment and misunderstandings.

 

Being Practical Is Not Unromantic.

In lots of cases, partners don’t express their likes and dislikes freely in fear of sounding demanding, but at the same time, expect their partners to decipher subtle hints that they throw out from time to time. That is a very vague move and prone to be overlooked. We have to be open about what we expect of our partners, and be specific about what we appreciate. And no, that does not make the gesture any less romantic, instead there is a chance they are able to reach out to you more when they know what you really will like, instead of lingering on in an abyss of uncertainty.

 

They Do Care; They Just Have a Different Way of Showing It.

As we mentioned earlier, the language of love isn’t a specific language; different people express it in different ways. Some people show their love by giving gifts, some people like to prove their love through their actions, some through words- be it offering compliments or proclaiming their love or just pouring their hearts out to the people they care about, some people prefer their physical intimacy to speak for them and some prefer to show their love by spending time with them and integrating them in their lives.

The glitch is, two people in a relationship may not speak the same language to express their love. That is where the trouble arises. One of them may give the other personalized gifts, or say that they love them, but if there is no reciprocity in a similar language, the relationship sours. The other person might be trying to express themselves by doing nice things for you, or be physically intimate but if that is not your language of love, there is a miss.

 

So, what’s the point?

The point is, we all want to be loved in a certain way. And we treat others the way we would like to be treated. It’s mostly a kind of mirror-effect we’re talking about. For example, if you wanted your partner to not watch television while having lunch and talk to you instead, you’d do the same. But conversely, you might imbibe your partner’s bad habits too, even if you disapprove of them.

So it’s important to analyze what message you’re sending to your partner, and be aware and observant to receive the signs they send too. Maybe your partner likes lunch dates, but not expensive gifts like you do. It isn’t fair to expect them to know that, and you both have to speak out and understand each other’s language of love, for the relationship to sustain and flourish.

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If She Has Even Half of These Qualities You Should Definitely Marry Her!

If She Has Even Half of These Qualities You Should Definitely Marry Her!

1. She is Smarter Compared to You

Real men are those who appreciate beauty with brains instead of running away for the sake of male ego. The smarter she is, the more you get to know new things and acquire knowledge.

 

2. She Values Truthfulness

She values honesty and never tries to hide anything from you no matter how bitter the truth may be. She know truthfulness is equal to maturity and she in this was shows the courage she has.

 

3. Positivity in Every Sphere

People these days tend to get depressed very easily, because search for happiness never stops. But she always has that positive vibe in her no matter what is going on in her life. She spreads the vibe of optimism around all the time.

 

4. She knows Meaning of Adjustment

Relationship these days are not valued enough, since people have become selfish. But if she is different who is ready for adjustments just to well maintain the relation, she is realistic and she will always put efforts.

 

5. Cheerful enough to Turn Serious Situations Upside Down

People have many reasons not to smile enough these days. But when it comes to her she is always cheerful and cracking funny jokes. It is with her you would find most of the time laughing your heart out. When she also finds your jokes humorous, you get a pleasant feeling of making her smile.

 

6. Broad Minded and Accepts New Thinking

Broad minded does not only mean accepting new way of thinking. It also means she has the patience to listen to other people’s opinions and thoughts, even when they do not match with her way of thinking. She would also respect your views and perspective.

 

7. She has a Particular Aim in Life

She knows the meaning of aim; her aims are the ones which drives her actions. She is a very hard working person when it comes to fulfill her dreams. This is the reason she would also want you to pursue your dreams, because an aimless person reaches no where in life.

 

8. She has a Sorted Family Life

When someone has issues within family, they go through a lot of psychological turmoil. That turmoil affects other relation too. So if she has a sorted family life with a happy parents-daughter equation, she would know how to maintain environment at home.

 

9. She is Generous in Nature

These days honesty, kindness, morality are lacking in people. So if you find her being generous, even when it means sacrifice to a great extent, she is genuinely a person who is good at heart.

 

10. She knows how to Handle Disagreements

Relationships include disagreements. Maturity is when she knows how to handle them with proper words. She does not let her emotions control her mouth. She has the capability to push away grave situations.

 

11. She is Exactly Herself When You are Around

She does not like pretending anything, honesty is her key morality. When she is around you she likes to show her raw soul too you without the fear of being judged.

 

12. She respects Social Life

She is a girl with aim and independent also. This is the reason she respects social life other than relation. She does not always need you to prove her your loyalty by sticking around her.

 

13. She Knows The Fact No One is Perfect

She knows that every individual has flaws and imperfection makes human. She understands you in this respect and never sets up any long list of expectations from you.

 

14. She knows to Let Go

Relationships never go smooth, you ought to have arguments. But she never drags past events in present just to stretch the problems.

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If They Are Failing To Feed Your Soul In These 6 Ways They Aren’t Your Soulmate

If They Are Failing To Feed Your Soul In These 6 Ways They Aren't Your Soulmate

The 6 Ways In Which Soulmates Nourish Your Soul

Soulmates are about much more than simple instant gratification. They are here to help you in your personal growth and nourish you. All of them will have these 6 signs in common and if you can’t relate these to your partner, then sadly, it implies that they are not really the one to be called soulmates.

 

1 Giving you validation for your feelings even if you don’t ask for it 

They pay attention to how you feel and react accordingly. They’ll be jubilant when you have achieved something in your workplace and will be equally outraged when life hasn’t been fair to you. They will not belittle or negate your experiences or anguish and will give each thing as much attention as you would have.

If instead your partner is someone who constantly makes fun of your emotions or feelings, someone who constantly says that you are making a big deal out of nothing, you better look for the next exit. If they constantly make you feel like you have to apologize for everything you do and feel, then they are definitely not nurturing and helping you grow. Constantly belittling you and making you feel inferior is not the sign of a soulmate; much less a good one. Do not let such people have any control or say in your life.

 

2 Giving you priority over other things

All of us are busy with our own trials and tribulations. And everyone has their plates full to the brim. But, we make time for the things that matter to us and have no doubt about it, if they treasure you, they’ll make you a priority. Meetings and appointments aside, there is no reason why any of the partner should feel like the second fiddle in a relationship.

If your partner cannot seem to be able to find time for you that means that they do not value you enough to do so. Do not spend your time and energy on someone who wouldn’t even give you the time of the day. Remember that you are not a toy, to be brought out according to convenience. You should be made a priority by your partner because that is what you deserve.

 

3 Helping you to grow and evolve

The only people worth having around are those who support you and encourage you to always achieve more than what you thought possible. They are the ones who are rooting for you to succeed and are also there to comfort you when you don’t. This applies to the soulmate as well. A true soulmate is one who helps you realize your hidden potential. They encourage you to look deep within yourself and sometimes recognize talent which you didn’t know about yourself.

Day in and day out they encourage you to be better than who you were yesterday. If they are not encouraging your growth or helping you realize your hidden potential, then they are not your soulmates. A soulmate will never let you be the mundane, making by with whatever is the bare minimum. They want you to excel in every way and they will make sure that you do. They will be critical of you when you lag behind and give you a hand when you need it, but they will make sure that you reach the top.

 

4 Giving you your own space

All of us need our own space and not all the partners are comfortable with it and/or realize its importance. Although you might be a couple but you are still individuals who have their individual likes, dislikes, hobbies and social circle. Neglecting all of that in the favor of each other’s company, all day everyday is neither healthy nor will it do anything to make the two of you grow fonder of each other.

The two partners have to be mature enough to understand that everyone has a life of their own and trust each other to love it to the fullest without forgetting all about them. If both the partners can come to a consensus on how much space they need to grow and thrive as individuals, and then not begrudge each other for that, they will definitely not face any altercations or problems in life. Personal space is a necessity and not just a luxury; so don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

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10 Things You MUST Know About Relationships

10 Things You MUST Know About Relationships

Life has a way of answering questions you didn’t even ask. As I reflect upon my adult life so far, I find this to be especially true when it comes to relationships. From being the recipient and the perpetrator of heartbreak, to cyclically selecting the wrong type, to over expectation, to self-doubt, to romantic bliss… the list is seemingly endless on the ways I have grown in my understanding of relationship dynamics.

While I’m sure there is still plenty of room for self-sabotage and reflective growth, this is a list of 10 nuggets of wisdom I am happy to have shaped from my experiences thus far. I share this with the hope it will resonate with some of you, maybe even help; these are messages I have found in the mess.

 

1. Healthy relationships come from within.

Just because you are available for a relationship doesn’t mean you are ready for one. If you’re not comfortable enough with yourself or with your own truth when entering a relationship, then you’re not ready for that relationship. Don’t make the other person suffer for your own lack of integrity or inability to embrace the truths of your life.

 

2. Heartbreak may mean the end of a relationship, but it’s not the end of love.

Know this… life is too short to not kick fear in the ass and allow yourself to love again. People may call you a “hopeless romantic.” Be confident in knowing that you can be a romantic without being hopeless. There are good people out there; and that at least one of them is right for you. Don’t let your pain, fear, or anyone convince you to settle for less.

 

3. When entering into a personal relationship, be honest from the start.

Believe me when I tell you that I know it’s tempting to lie and smear the truth, but it never helps. It’s simply better to be honest from the start. The feeling of disappointment that comes with the realization that you are incompatible is much better than the feeling of pain and betrayal that comes with finding out that either of you (or both) are full of crap.

 

4. For a great love, cultivate a great friendship.

Endless love is fueled by endless friendship. If you want to have the greatest romance ever, have the greatest friendship ever. Cultivate it; do not let your friendships die. Remember, it’s not a lack of love that destroys relationships; it’s usually a lack of friendship.

 

5. Be comfortable… but not too comfortable.

Sometimes the comfort of being in a relationship lulls you into mundane complacency; you become irrelevant in each other’s lives. We call this phenomenon growing apart. Don’t let this happen to you. Keep the spark alive. Flirt. Be on your best behavior. Keep interested in each other. Go on dates. Keep the passion going. Express your appreciation. Be a good friend. The true dynamic of a successful friendship and relationship is when the respect is mutual and reciprocal.

 

6. Have a funeral for past relationships.

Think of how liberating it would feel to have a funeral for past relationships and drama. Take the time to look back and give the past its proper recognition. Reflect upon what you can learn from your experiences; the good, the bad, the pretty, the ugly. Learn and move on. Recognize past relationships for their impact on your life and most importantly, recognize them for what they are… gone. Let go.

 

7. Don’t try to control other people’s behavior.

It is a tremendous burden to attach yourself to outcomes and behaviors you simply don’t control. The only control you have is your own behavior, and that’s tough enough to control. What chance do you think you have of controlling other’s? Free yourself from such fruitless stressors. Instead of trying to control the behaviors of others, set a standard in your own life. Refuse to be disrespected, lied to, or mistreated. Set standards of personal behavior and standards of what you accept from others. Setting standards for yourself is a healthy and effective way to avoid the fruitless burden of trying to control others.

 

8. We live in a multidimensional world. Don’t live a one-dimensional love.

If you love someone… feel it, speak it, show it, be it. Do more than tell them… show them. Let them feel your dedicated respect and your unwavering devotion. Ensure that your commitment and passion are known and unquestionable. Show them what they mean to you… what they are to you. And… if you don’t feel inspired to show your love in this multidimensional manner… be kind enough to let them go… so they can find someone who will.

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7 Things You Must Do To Be A Better Relationship Partner

7 Things You Must Do To Be A Better Relationship Partner

Do you want to be a better relationship partner?

Love can do wonders. Or if I say it specifically, loving the right one can do wonders. Perhaps there is no definite explanation of what a “right person” looks like. The truth is that there are going to be struggles with everyone. You just have to settle down with the one who is worth all the battles. Nobody is perfect, but love is finding perfection in something absolutely imperfect and making it work out. Here are a few of the ways you can be the better one in your relationship.

1. Silence your mind

No, nobody is asking you to be dumb in love. What we’re asking you to do is breathe and take love as it comes. Often we are so stuffed with all the past experiences and already set expectations that we lose out on the essence if its authenticity.

It’s good to set standards and not settle down for less but just remember that it’s never going to be perfect with anyone because if it is then probably it isn’t real. Let your heart feel whoever it wants to and just let your brain process into a conclusion. Never try to silence your feelings. They will always come out in uglier ways.

 

2. Don’t react instantly

Anger is one of the most aggressive and damaging emotions of all. Yes, you and your partner will not always agree on one thing. You both are different individuals which is why it’s ok to have certain differences. In moments when you both don’t agree on one particular thing, don’t jump to conclusions.

Think about it when you’re in a calm state of mind and try to look at things from their point of view. I know it’s always easier said than done but it’s also true that a calmer mind will always come up with better and more meaningful solutions. When we are angry, we are so dedicated to proving ourselves right that we start looking for every evidence that supports our wording. Hence, take your time and don’t rush into conclusions.

 

3. Exchange favors

Exchange favors with your partner often. This will bring you two emotionally closer and also increase your comfort level around them. Exchanging favors is more than just taking help. It has a greater influence on your relationship. It makes your partner feel like they play an active role in your life and that you really need them. To know that someone needs you in their life is honestly one of the most overwhelming feelings ever.

 

4. Sleep when stressed

Our generation is known to have a very fast life. Every 1 out of 3 people are stressed these days. It could be about anything- work, family, financial issues or even health. When people are stressed they tend to take rash decisions. This is often because their mind is tired of thinking about a particular problem and they end up taking out its reaction to their relationship. Don’t do that.

Sometimes in the heat of the moment, we end up doing and saying hurtful things. Remember that words can’t be taken back once they are already said. So in such situations, don’t go too hard on yourself. Sleep. Yes. Sleeping will provide peace and rest to your overworked mind. And once your mind has had enough rest it can differentiate between right and wrong and will also help you in making proper decisions. This will, in turn, make you a better partner in a relationship.

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9 Reasons She’s Going To Leave You For Another Man

9 Reasons She’s Going To Leave You For Another Man

There are lots of different reasons why people break up. Do you wonder if she is going to leave you for another man?

“I’m guilty of giving people more chances than they deserve but when I’m done, I’m done.”
― Turcois Ominek.

You are probably wondering how could she leave you!

Things seemed so perfect and you never got an inkling she was going to leave. But yes, she did. You probably might not have realized it because things seemed fine from your end but the issues did exist, most of them in things you did.

You probably couldn’t get the inkling and she got tired of trying to tell you and eventually decided to leave. While it’s difficult to generalize why women leave, here are 9 things which are common to most of the cases:

(1) You don’t give her space:

Possessiveness is good but over-possessiveness makes one feel claustrophobic in the relationship. She must have been feeling suffocated and chained in the relationship and decided to set herself free.

 

(2) You are not being honest:

You are probably lying to her too much and in most of the cases, she has been catching you. Honesty is a key element in sustaining a relationship. If you are not honest, then your partner is bound to leave you.

 

(3) You have frequent mood swings:

We all have emotions but being moody is not a sign of behaving like a responsible adult. No one likes a complaining, whining partner. It’s the negativity that made her leave you.

 

(4) You are too serious:

Give yourself a break. Make a trip with her. It’s good to release the inner child in us, sometimes. Being too serious will scare her off.

 

(5) You don’t listen to her:

She probably knows every problem you are facing in your life but how much do you know about her? Imagine feeling ignored all the time. She feels that too when you don’t take the time to listen to her. She also feels she is not important in your life. That is why she can leave you for another man.

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When Your Love Is True, Your Loyalty Stands The Test Of Time

When Your Love Is True, Your Loyalty Stands The Test Of Time

Love is never the same for two different people, what joins them in a bond is the happiness for having found affection and mutual respect. The human heart is wired to flutter around like a newborn butterfly and discover whatever’s sweet. It craves for what is forbidden and runs from monotony. But these desires are iced when you stumble upon the glittery true love.

Being fully entrenched in love makes things easy for you like the satisfaction which is felt, will refrain you from acting impulsively, which is never good for you in the long race. The better you hold your impulses in place, the happier love will be for you, and vice versa.

The grass always seems greener on the other side; it’s only when you step on it that you realize how dry and patchy it is. Usually, it’s too late to step back into your pool by then. Realizing this is an important factor for the emotional well being of both you and your partner. Even one’s interest in a diamond loses its shine after a count of days.

Impulsive moments of recluse can lead to the destruction of a relationship which has taken levels of time and effort to build. The trust gained is not an easy task. People rarely put down their guards in front of others in today’s world. Is it really worth to risk all that for a few moments of variety?

Cheating would make things so much hard, even if you decide to step out of it, the guilt and emotional burden added is a tough battle to fight.

Finding the perfect one surely is a hard nut to crack. Some are too clingy, some are too reserved. Some want you to change, some need all your attention. Only a few encounters will love you for who you are and accept every flaw in you. These are the people who help you grow as a person while providing you with all the affection you need.

After being spoon-fed love, the thought of any sideline activity like flirting, texting others will make you cringe. The thought of hurting someone, who has given you everything they have, will sadden you beyond words.

Everyone needs their own space in a relationship. Most days are sunny, sometimes they are cloudy. A person should always give their partner enough space when they need it. Cloudy days tend to collect our demons front and center. We say things in heat of the moment which leaves a lasting impact of other’s mind, and these mostly are things we don’t really mean. It’s alright to vent, but if it is not conveyed that those words were not meant, it might create problems for no reason.

Nobody happens to be perfect, and everybody is different. When two people are in love, they help overcome each other’s weakness and grow as a whole. What is a child play for you might be a tough thing for others and the opposite is true as well. That’s why two people together can get through a lot of things, helping each other out at every little step to overcome whatever lies in front of them. It does require patience though.

We can’t just lose our calm and point our partner’s shortcomings, it makes demoralizes them and leaves a negative impact. Also, in front of others, you two always need to have each other’s back. Doesn’t mean you agree with everything they say, just that you respect them enough to sort things out in private.

Moreover, love needs compromise. When single, we make ourselves the most comfortable and a new person in our lives means we would need to jump out of our cozy comfort zone and compromise on even our favorite things when needed. Most of our ‘needs’ are insignificant and can be put on hold when the other’s needs are important ones. Compromise makes us realize our priorities, and love is always greater than a couple missed football games.

When we have someone there to listen to every little problem of yours and guide you through it with smoothly as butter, you tend to tell them everything. It is a wonderful thing, you get to share whatever strikes in your head; you have no personal burden. Though sometimes in times of distress among couples, some people share private things entrusted to them in confidence, which just puts a bad impression about both of you to the listener.

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11 Signs The Nice Guy You Are Dating Is A F*ckboy in Disguise

f*ckboy in disguise

Are you aware of the fact that he is nothing but a F*ckboy in Disguise?

“Women! They madly love Casanovas for their traits and equally hate them for being disloyal.” ― Himmilicious, Lemon Tea and White Safari.

‘Everything’s fair in love and war’ is often taken by many men seriously. In the act of dating, these men believe they can do anything and everything when it comes to love and playing games doesn’t make them feel guilty. They are such pros in this that it’s very difficult to identify them.

F*ckboys in disguise, they are better known as ‘Casanova’. They will sweep you off your feet with their charm, talk to you as if you are the Prince of this world and then when you have finally given them what they wanted, they will abandon you as if you don’t even exist.

You are probably wondering now how is it possible to identify such a person. Well, you don’t need to worry.

Here are some cues that the man you’re interested in is a F*ckboy in disguise

 

(1) He doesn’t post his personal details on social media :

He is always against posting his pictures or your couple pictures on social media. He gives you the excuse that he wants to keep his life private but don’t buy that excuse. He is just playing safe. He doesn’t want his other interests to know he is dating someone.

 

(2) He is always busy :

We all have our work but if we really want to be with someone, we can definitely make time for them. Busy is just an excuse. He will only meet you when he wants, not when you want.

 

(3) He is very charming and well-groomed :

You feel he is the real-life version of Prince Charming. He is very conscious of looks and always maintains himself. He needs this to attract women and your falling in love with him doesn’t count.

 

(4) He speaks with flamboyance :

He is an amazing speaker. You can spend your day listening to him. Of course, he needs to be good with words so that he can manipulate girls into trusting him and falling for him.

 

(5) He never finds time to call you :

Calling someone over the phone is an indication that the person really wants to be with someone. When you talk to someone over the phone, you get to hear that person’s voice, feel their vibration and emotion. Texting is rather a very casual and careless way of informal communication. If he doesn’t call you, then it’s time you start thinking about your relationship.

 

(6) He hasn’t introduced you to his peers :

He has never introduced you to his family and friends. Even if you express your wish to see him, he would avoid the topic. This indicates he is not serious and hence, doesn’t want his close people to know about you.

 

(7) He is not ready for something else more than friendship :

He wants to remain your good friend but doesn’t wish to go beyond that. No matter what he says, perhaps it will be better if you don’t believe him because by remaining good friends, he will still try to take advantage. The fact that he is not ready for a relationship means he doesn’t want commitment and wishes to live a life without commitment.

 

(8) He always wants to talk about sex :

You might want to have a strong sexual bonding with him and you like his talks on sex but this is alarming too. If the guy you are dating is always talking about sex, then it means he just wants sex, nothing else. He is a f*ckboy in disguise

 

(9) He always says he is single :

He tells you that he doesn’t want to disclose his personal life but claiming to be single to everyone is a sign which indicates he is keeping his other option open. By claiming to be single, he is giving other women the space to hook up with him.

 

(10) He has a lot of female friends :

We live in a progressive society and it’s not a sin to have friends of the opposite gender. But, if you have too many female friends and you are always chatting with them in social media, then this is something you need to be cautious of. Having too many female friends and simultaneously making new ones is an indication that he is interested in exploring them to meet his desires. So he is definitely a f*ckboy in disguise.

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Soulmate Signs and Signals: 7 Identifying Signs Of A True Soulmate

Soulmate Signs and Signals: 8 Identifying Signs Of A True Soulmate

A soulmate is someone who shares a strong spiritual connection with you. Do you know how to identify your true soulmate with the help of signs?

“The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.” ~ Jalal ad-Din Rumi

There are a lot of definitions floating around for the term “Soul mate”. However, if we come to think of it, the meaning is pretty simple, a soul mate is someone who is a mate of your soul first and foremost.

A soul mate is someone who shares a similar energy and similar purpose as yours and therefore you two share a strong spiritual connection.

I believe soul mates come to help remind us of our purpose and help to awaken us to the reality of who we really are.

Soul mates don’t have to be necessarily romantic but most often they are because of the strong attraction and connection between them.

If you are wondering if you have encountered a Soulmate connection, here are the 7 telltale signs and signals:

 

1. You feel an instant soul connection

You feel a very strong attraction and pull towards your soul mate. There is an instant sense of familiarity that you have known them before. It is because your soul recognizes the energy of their soul even if you may be meeting them for the first time in this lifetime.

The intensity of attraction and pull that you will feel for them will be unlike you have ever felt before for anyone else.

You will feel aligned with them on levels – emotionally, mentally and spiritually and the physical chemistry will be palpable.

 

2. There is strong communication

However, soul mates have strong empathy and intuition and they can finish each other’s sentences but expecting them to know everything that is there on your mind is unrealistic.

Most people think that once they are in a soul mate relationship, their soul mate is going to automatically know what they need or want without clearly communicating their desires.

We have different conditionings and different communication styles and thinking that the other person would know our needs without communicating is setting ourselves up for failure.

However, a clear sign of a soul mate relationship is that they have a very strong foundation for communication. They have a very strong bonding and know how to create an open and vulnerable space for communication between them.

 

3. You are best friends and you can be your authentic selves with each other

You feel an innate sense of comfort and familiarity with your soul mate. You share unconditional love and mutual respect for each other.

You can be open and vulnerable with them unlike you have been with anyone else before.

They are your best friend, partner in crime, mentor and lover.

They love you for who you are and also challenge you to grow into your highest possible version.

 

4. The relationship awakens you to the essence of who you really are

The soulmate relationship can dramatically turn your life upside down. The main purpose of the relationship is to awaken you to the essence of who you really are.

Meeting them will trigger your wakening process. All the old habits, facades, and insecurities that are holding you back, will come to the surface for being cleared and released.

This connection may make you discover new skills or talents that you didn’t know you had and they will be connected to fulfilling your life purpose.

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Reasons Why People With Anxiety Are The Best People To Fall In Love With

The Beauty Of Loving Someone With Anxiety

A person who has anxiety is by no means flawless, but then none of us are. Loving them is different because you are in love with a person who is aware of every single feeling flowing through them.

They feel every emotion acutely and they aren’t sorry about it.

Their anxiety has made them pick apart each and every emotion they’ve ever felt at any given time, so much so that now they know exactly what is going on in their minds.

In the same way, their empathic abilities will allow them to tune into the feelings of those close to them. They experience whatever you feel as if it is happening to them and so they will treat you with the same sensitivity with which they treat themselves.

They’ll be able to tell if you are especially tense because your job is frustrating you. They can tell if you’re happy or sad or angry just from the way you tread when you walk up to them.

They’ll read every movement you make and every word you speak and will automatically find out if there are things bothering you.

That kind of sensitivity makes a person’s soul grow older, no matter how young their body is. Their heart is big and they will give all of it to you if they love you.

They are quite aware that they can be difficult at times so they’ll never take your presence for granted. Their personality will not allow them to be closed off to someone they love so they’ll always be open and will speak the truth.

Loving a person with anxiety is special because you can be sure that they have complete faith in you and that they are giving you all the love that is in them to give.

They are aware of the problems they have, they know they are not the strongest mentally and that it can affect your relationship but they believe that you will stay.

And in turn, you can be rest assured that as long as you are respectful and kind, they will never leave you. Open your heart to them and theirs is yours to keep as long as you will have it. They know exactly how much pain you are in and they will soothe you like no one else can.

A person with anxiety knows what it’s like when stress overcomes you and makes you crumble.

They know that this frustrated, angry persona is not who you really are so they will cuddle you close till all that negativity drains away leaving only you behind.

Every person has some inner demons, some skeletons in their closet and people with anxiety understand this better than anyone because they have struggled against the very same things for almost as long as they have been alive.

So, when your inner demons start to show, you never have to be afraid that they will turn away from you. They’ll just hug you tighter and kiss you and tell you they love you till you become strong enough to fight them off and return to your normal self.

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How To Know If A Relationship Is Worth Saving

How To Know If A Relationship Is Worth Saving

Is your relationship is worth saving? If you are in a state of confusion then reading this can help you.

You used to love and absolutely enjoy each other so much until the recent misunderstood, then the second quarrel happened.

And now you don’t even know where in your relationship you are at the moment, and if you still feel the same way about your partner?

Why did it happen? How to know if a relationship is worth saving? Is it possible to fix the things?

“The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.” – it doesn’t sound optimistic, however, it does make sense.

Unfortunately, betrayal and disappointment happen even in truly intimate, long-term relationships. No matter, if it is on some “you’ve been smoking again!” level, or comes to much more serious things like cheating and having an affair. In any case, it will eventually affect your relations dramatically.

So, maybe, the essence of true love is not to find the one worth suffering for, but build a relationship worth fighting for?

If you keep asking all those questions to yourself, passing “Is-My-Relationship-Worth-Saving” surveys, you’re at the right place now.

What are the main signs to stay in a relationship?

Let’s figure it out together!

1. You’re Playing on the Same Team

Regardless of who is more to blame for the argument, perspective couples overcome it together as a team.

Imagine that your partner bought a car without asking your opinion on that, and it set you off. Would you still feel like you’re gonna get out of that debt together? If yes, the “WE-power” hasn’t left yet, so it’s definitely worth keeping the fire.

 

2. You Share the Responsibility for Whatever Happened

It’s obvious that there’s no your direct fault in your partner’s cheating – it seems like their complete responsibility.

But if you’re still ready to consider the situation under various angles, without blaming only your beloved, and find out some possible causes of such behavior, connected with your own actions (maybe, you were kind of emotionally distant lately), it’s a reason to give the relationship a chance.

 

3. Those Butterflies Are Still There

If you still believe in a mighty power of love and feel butterflies in your belly, that’s a signal you’ll probably save the relationship, getting through the harsh times.

Try to spend more time together, building the situations when you can express your feelings through hugs, kisses, sweet words, care, and attention as much as possible. These little investments won’t ruin your couple, for sure!

 

4. It’s You Both, Who Are Doing and Acting

If you’re constantly noticing that the partner is reluctant to act, sacrifice, look for a way out, and even more, denies a problem in a whole, refuses to change something, doesn’t even want to visit a therapist – it’s a warning signal to leave.

If on the contrary, you both are active “doers” – there definitely is a thing to struggle for.

 

5. You Can Trust Your Partner Anyway

Lost trust is the most significant indicator you’re growing apart.

If you can be completely honest with your partner, express all your thoughts and feelings without fear, communicate openly and freely, there’s nothing to worry about – you’ve got a bunch of reasons to stay together on and on.

 

EASY WAYS TO KNOW IF A RELATIONSHIP IS WORTH SAVING

  • Imagine Yourself Separated

How do you feel when thinking about breaking up? Are you sad or happy? Or, maybe, confused? Thinking it over will definitely help.

 

Just check yourself: if you’re meant for each other, you’ll understand the partner without words. Test your beloved: try to tell them what you want by means of eye contact only. Can you?

BOTTOM LINE

The Millennial Love Expert, a Relationship Counselor, and Dating Coach who works with individuals and couples to create the love lives, Samantha Burns, is sure:

“The presence of problems in relationships does not mean that you are destined to split up. Some issues are more difficult to overcome than the others, but both the success and failure in the process of relationships building depends on how you two cope with these problems.”

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