“Love is as love does.”- M. Scott Peck, Road Less Travelled
Have you ever caught yourself wondering if the guy you are with really loves you, it may be because despite of all the confessions of love he makes or doesn’t make, his love doesn’t reflect in his actions.
Sometimes when we fall in love, our judgment is clouded by the euphoria of certain chemical rush in our bodies and brains and we fail to see the obvious that is in front of us.
We all deserve to be with partners that love and respect us wholeheartedly but sometimes we stick around partners who are not that into us because we live in denial or we hope that they will change their ways sometime.
If you stick around in a relationship like that, you are robbing yourself out of the chance to be in a happy, loving and fulfilling relationship.
If this sounds familiar, read on to find out the signs that he is not that into you as you would like to believe:
1) You are the one who is always making the first move
Firstly, men are wired for the chase. If he is interested in you or likes you, he will make every possible effort to pursue you. If he is truly interested in you, he will find a way to talk to you, to reach out to you. It may take some time for him to gather the courage to make the first move, but he will get there eventually.
When you are in a relationship, it is an equal partnership between two people.
If you’re the only one who is chasing him like a celebrity, always making the first move, texting him, calling him, making plans to meet etc. Then clearly he is not that into you girl.
2) He doesn’t make any effort to know you better
If someone is interested in you, they would want to get to know you better. They would ask you questions about your hobbies, dreams, and ambitions. They would text you and call you and reach out to you to take the conversation forward.
If you feel the conversation is one sided and you are the only one who is doing the talking and he is not even interested to respond or doesn’t ask any questions.
Then, he is really not worth your time.
3) He treats you like an option
If you are always adjusting your schedule to meet him and work according to all his priorities and preferences all the time, then he is clearly treating you like an option.
And you should never settle to be an option in anybody’s life.
4) He acts like he doesn’t care
When he acts like he doesn’t care about you, then you should believe him. If he was genuinely interested in you, he would not act like he doesn’t care. He would make every possible effort to make sure that you know he loves you whether by saying it explicitly or by reflecting that care and affection in his actions.
If he really liked you, he wouldn’t keep you wondering.
5) He doesn’t express his emotions
Men are programmed to not express their emotions and portray a tough exterior from their childhood.
But they do have emotions and if they really like someone, they would not be able to hide it for a very long time.
If he is sure that he likes you, he would find a way to let that be known to you. He would not keep things to himself for long and not only that he would make every effort to find out if you like him too.
6) He doesn’t involve you in his life
In the initial phases of a relationship, the guy may not divulge a lot of his personal life to you.
But as the relationship strengthens, he would want to introduce you to the important people in his life, seek your opinion on decisions concerning his life and let you in his personal life.