Don’t forget: all this applies to female sociopaths as well.
A Con Man Wants Whatever They Can Get
We apply to sponsor him for a green card. We had an amazing dinner out for his birthday. He had a “business meeting” on your birthday. He takes his cell everywhere – even to the bathroom. He sleeps with his cell phone. We’re not feeling so happy all the time. He blanks out his laptop monitor when we come near – or changes the window. He’s really energetic and well sometimes he’s down and sleeps a lot – like all day. She or he called us greedy, evil, selfish or other harsh and unexpected things. He doesn’t apologize. He tells us we’re the greatest thing that ever happened to him. Even though he – or she – said we’re an idiot. Someone cheated him again. It feels like we’re walking on egg shells with him. He has a lot on his mind. We don’t want to say anything about the weird text we accidentally saw in his phone. We offer money to help out. He has blocked us from his Facebook.
I hope by now you can get away. Now you know he’s a con man. But – it might take a Big Event to jar reality into view.
You Know He’s a Con Man If…
He has a wife. She has his child and another guys. They are waiting for him to come back home from his business trip. A fiance – or two – waits for him. There is a bank account we didn’t know about. The college he said he went to has never heard of him. That guy he says cheated him…? – It was the other way around. He still lives with another woman or man. The house he said he’s buying – forget about it. They have stolen money or belongings from us. He has “borrowed” or transferred our property or embezzled our assets. There are arrest warrants for him in other states or other countries. Look closely – all positive information about him on the internet – he posted. His LLC company registered in Texas – or wherever? – Doesn’t really exist. Every “business meeting” was a date with one girlfriend or another. The projects listed on his resume are not even close to half-truths. He has 3, or 5, or 7 abandoned children from different women scattered here & there. He uses an alteration of his birth name.
Now that he’s a known a con man – R.U.N. Make an escape plan. Now he knows, we know, he’s a con man. Be ready to make sure we’re safe.
Now That We Know He’s a Con Man – He Will Do Some of These…
Call us names. Say everything is our fault. Threatens us. Tries to sue us. Publishes mean, untrue and just plain nuts things about us online. Steals more from behind our backs or openly take it. Cares absolutely nothing for us. She tires to get you to hit her. Have not one shred of empathy or concern for us or the predicament he’s put us in. Want more harm to come to us. Cause more harm. Become violent. Take our child or children. Abandon our children. Post pictures of our children for years to come on Facebook as his beloved children. Harass us if we keep up contact with them.
It’s time for No Contact.
It’s nothing to take personally. – Easier said than done, but doable! We could not have done anything differently. He’s a sociopath; he can only function as a sociopath. He never was the guy we thought he was. He did all this on purpose. – Like reptiles can’t help eating their young? – It is who they are. They do it to everyone they meet taking it to some level or another. They have a different brain.
We gotta get him out or take off ourselves to a new safe place.
Here’s to REAL True Love and Happiness!
Time to thrive!